Today I was in a girls chat room and they talked about Halloween costumes which I thought was a total waste of time. Cause as a religious person, I don’t dress up for Halloween. I buy treats to give for kids and praise them on their costumes when I see them, but I do not celebrate so that was a boring topic.
Than a girl was showing off her latest project and I never praise her for it cause I feel like she does things to glorify herself instead of God. Then she was asking for pity by talking about her problems which I refused to respond to because I believe it’s wrong to help somebody who views her needs as more important than yours. I’m also not sure if her statements are true cause they contradict other things she’s said and done.
I also had to listen to an irrelevant lecture on not spending money on junk food. I buy junk food less than once a year if you exclude restaurant outings with friends. Then people were talking about these weird cultural characters they wanted to dress up with which I thought I was an irrelevant topic for discussion. They also talked about how expensive groceries were when I thought the groceries they mentioned were cheap and did not agree with them on how unreasonable the prices were at the grocery store.
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Hmm yeah I feel you, it can definitely be boring trying to chat with people who don't share your same values and priorities. A few thoughts:
- Halloween costumes, praising yourself, complaining about problems - that stuff probably doesn't interest you since it's not very spiritual.
- Junk food lectures also seem preachy since you don't overindulge like that.
- Cultural characters and prices seem like trivial topics if they're not directly relevant to your life.
At the same time, it's good to try and find some common ground too instead of just dismissing everything. Maybe ask open-ended questions to learn more about them as people, even if you don't personally relate. And try sharing something uplifting from your faith - they might be curious even if not religious.
Splitting too much just leads to more division. But it's okay to politely excuse yourself if a convo gets too dull. Overall try mixing listening with also sharing what inspires you, so it goes both ways. Keep representing God's light no matter who you're with!