Is it worse for men to not want to have a family or is it worse for women to not want a family?

[SolitarySolace]

I think it is worse for men to refuse to have a family with a woman. He is meant to be the protector.

I think it is worse for women to refuse to have a family with a man. She is meant to be the homemaker and caregiver/nurturer

A total of 22 votes were cast: 5 girls and 17 guys. See detailed results

[pass_the_celery98]

Women for sure. Men and guys are different, once a male matures, he will be willing to cut off bad guy friends, doing dumb stuff like smoking pot, going to clubs, going to strip clubs. A real guy or real man will work a full time job and provide and want a family. But I just feel like women, especially modern day women want to only have an independent life style and still act like she’s 21 years old but in reality is 41 and will go out dancing and partying. I don’t get why some women want to hold on to a fake friendship and do immature stuff with a bunch of girls rather then having a loving husband and a child who loves her. Love and loyalty is so broken in todays generation and that’s because of the whores and fuck boys who caused this mess in many peoples lives and I stand by that.

[blueonblack22]

Many men start off saying “they don’t want a family” because they fear the iron chains of being tied down. But as they get older and/or they meet a responsible young woman younger they change their minds.

Women on the other hand have the actual ability to create a baby and deliver it. They are supposed to have a natural affinity to motherhood and children. That’s not to say every woman should be a mother. But still something has changed in society and not for the better.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Neither. Believe it or not, nowadays it's common, and even accepted, for BOTH genders to choose to not want a family or relationship-

Shocking, I know. But honestly it's better to not make such a commitment only to regret it later, just for the sake of following some archaic, societal standards that assume you need a family to be happy.

[LaurenM1997]

I don’t want a family unless it’s fur babies I do not plan to have human children cause of my disability I would be a bad mother and social services would be involved I’m just being honest

[SolitarySolace]

I think you’d be a good mother if that happens to be something you wanted someday. If not that’s totally cool too. Either way you’re a good person.

[LaurenM1997]

Thanks so much 🙂

[LaurenM1997]

Thanks for the MHO 🙂

[handsomelad70]

Most would say women, because people believe childless women are denying their maternal instincts, as well as, for some religious folk, they are defying God's injunction to be fruitful and multiply, despite eight-billion-plus people already inhabiting our beleaugered planet.

We childless men, however, are viewed as shallow, boyish (which I eagerly admit being, in spades), and unsubstantial for not being dads.(Or Brads and Chads, according to Taylor Swift.)

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

I am specializing in state family services for when my term will be over (2026), and a lesson I've learned in my experience of civil service is that people that don't want a family should just not have one.

Honestly for me neither men or women are worse, but somehow I feel wary of men who don't have a wife and children. My wife feels the same, but in her opinion the mother is essential - a colleague of mine is a widower with three children, and she kinda badgered him to find someone to remarry and give the kids a mom.

[SolitarySolace]

Force a man to be unhappy for the rest of his life why don’t ya 🤣

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

We are kind of conservative in that aspect.
Traditional family and all, my father was like that too.
Then he went and screwed multiple women, but his wife didn't mind as long as he came back home to her.

[handsomelad70]

Traditional cad, that is.

[HighValue]

It is worse for women because if they change their mind later, it is often too late and the opportunity is gone. Men have much more time to decide and still be likely to have healthy offspring.

[SolitarySolace]

Oh I get it… it’s because women are idiots putting themselves in situations they can’t handle and men aren’t? Am I getting this right?

[HighValue]

No, it is because biologically women past 35 have less than a 1% chance to have healthy offspring, where as men boast 55 still have a higher chance so they have more time in life to change their mind if they want to create a family or not.

[SolitarySolace]

And that’s an issue and not considered natural? People are so fragile

[OlderAndWiser]

Why is it necessarily bad? There are some people who would be awful parents and I would applaud their decision to not procreate!

[SolitarySolace]

So you haven’t procreated, right?

[OlderAndWiser]

No, I never had children. My first wife and I were together until I was 49 years old, she couldn't have children, and she got sick soon after we got married and adoption would have been a bad idea. Not having children is one of the biggest regrets of my life. I COULD have had children later but the fifties are rather late to be starting a family.

[SolitarySolace]

Good

[OlderAndWiser]

What is so good about any of that?

[SolitarySolace]

Plenty you just can’t see it

[OlderAndWiser]

So you don't want to be straightforward with your opinion?

[thatshydork]

I don’t know and I honestly couldn’t care less. Want a family in the future? Cool. Don’t want one? Also cool. Who am I to judge or make your life decisions for you?

[exitseven]

I say woman but I think it depends on the circumstances. Some people should not be parents.

[bobby_bush_eater]

It's undoubtedly women. 1 man can have 1000 children theoretically but a women has to carry them for 9 months and then go through a massive trauma. It is far more important because of that, that's why it's women

[WhitneySnow]

Neither are bad. It’s totally their choice. They don’t have to subscribe to outdated gender roles if they don’t want to.

[laly520]

I picked second cuz I am a girl

having a family comes first to me, lovely healthy family with a great husband, our kids n our 3 cats

[TonyMetal___86]

Miss @laly520 you're a real lady 😌

[laly520]

thanks a lot ^^

[TonyMetal___86]

You're welcome

[Flower7]

Neither is bad. Both genders have the right to not have children.

[OddBeMe]

Women are more harangued by society about.. well everything.

But honestly we could do with a few gens of not reproducing.

[TonyMetal___86]

I guess that it depends on the person, some men and women loves to have a family and some don't...

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

Society pushes getting married and having kids on women a lot harder than men.

[Sharkstealth]

"Worse"? No neither. It's call nobody else's business.

[Dongie]

Maybe I don't understand. It's not wrong for anyone to choose not having a family.

[CuriousMufuxka]

I say neither based on personal preference. That decision should not rely on gender alone.

[Taniisokay]

The both sucks ANYWAY.

[lastlyfound]

Why so?

[postaldudePL123]

Good for both

[SolitarySolace]

How?

[postaldudePL123]

Some men and women don't really want it.

[msc545]

Women...

[In_Trance]

same thing