Why hasn't he made a move yet?

[Anonymous]

I've gone out on 4 dates with this guy and every time we've seen each other we've had a really good time. Every time we've gone to say good bye we end up sitting in the car talking for like a half hour and then hugging and parting ways. Last night we went to go see a movie and every time I tried to lean into him, he would sit there and then move away for a little bit, then come back. The movie got out really late so we were both really tired. He dropped me off at my house and again...nothing happened, no kiss, no nothing, just a hug and goodbye. I know I could have made the first move, but I'm so terrible at it and I'm not even sure that he wants it. What do you think? Is he into me? Why hasn't he tried to hold my hand or kiss me?

[mscnlink19]

Many times, it's difficult for a guy to gauge just how quickly, or how slow to take a situation. In a few cases in dating, if you're looking for something great that is, this can be confusing. So take it from a guys perspective right? Here. He is very much into you and maybe he's scared to make a move because he wants to show you how much he respects you, or maybe he's just plain nervous, and within this option you as a girl will either be discouraged/feel unattractive, and ultimately might find a guy to make you feel desired sexually. Even at the slightest, kissing and holding eachother. The other option is, he could take things very quickly, and there's a possibility of everything crashing because of speeding up so quickly. It's always confusing for a guy to figure out how a girl feels, if she isn't vocal, or if she is physically reserved. Just take it easy and throw some signs out there that you want to be more physical with him, touch his arms, make him feel masculine.

[Anonymous]

He's probably thinking the exact same you are.

So just ask yourself, are you gonna wait till your more attached to him try to make a move only to be rejected and have it hurt more? Or maybe make a move on the 5th date and if he's not into you like that he'll be easier to walk away from?

[mrzmannyc]

You have two choices: 1. Move on becasue he may be very wounded and not ready to share affectionor may not be capable of it. 2. Ask him and be a good listener. If he's very broken, please undestand something...YOU CAN NOT CHANGE HIM...so move on. 3. If he's just shy, hang on to him because you may have found a diamond in the rough.

[kev76]

You are probably more experienced then him at dating. I bet he really does like you since he is going out with you and you both are having a good time. He probably is just scared to run you off or that you are not as interested in him. Make a few moves yourself and I bet he will reciprocate!

[unleashedsavage]

He proably shy and wonders if he does make it a move you wouldn't see him anymore..try making a couple of moves yourself maybe a small peck on his cheek or a little cuddling..that def boost him up to pull a little tricks up his sleeves.. Good luck

[Moloch]

You need to make the kiss more obvious. Lean into him more, get closer to him. Shy men don't just go for it, they need to see the signals spelled out loud. Either that or when he goes for the hug, flip it on him and kiss him.

[moviedude714]

why don't you make a move instead?