- I personally don't enjoy it when women play hard to get , I'm not saying anyone should throw herself at me because I would question that but is it really necessary to complicate things when I don't see them doing that with bad men as often as they do with Good Men.
Just based on my observations of others relationships & my own experiences in life, the main thing to understand is that women hate being judged. So let's say a woman who normally has sex with guys 5 minutes after meeting them runs into a guy who carries himself as someone who is very careful about who he sleeps with and who has a moral compass not to be screwing everything that moves, she is going to behave as if she also has a moral compass around him so she doesn't feel he is judging her. Did I just blow your mind? The mere fact that you have standards will make a woman without standards pretend to have them. Of course she might not like pretending so the easiest thing for her to do is to avoid being around you or if you give her a good reason to be around you like free steak dinners then she might find the energy to pretend more.
The other thing that could keep a woman from jumping on you is she does have some self-control and she's loyal to another guy. Yet she is also sort of trying to find her next boyfriend at the same time. She will flirt but not go all the way. She will love the ego stroke of getting attention and keep you in mind for the future.
Then you have cheaters who (and similar) who do anything with one guy while pretending to be loyal to their boyfriend. They're good at acting and don't mind keeping up the act I mentioned earlier.
That all said... the worst thing you can do in life is to become what you think others want you to be. It's not a bad thing if you don't sleep with everything that moves.. or if you have higher standards. I learned how true the old saying "be careful what you wish for" is. I found when I was 20s how EASY it was to flirt with women and get them all hot and bothered but also how shutting that down if I changed my mind or I didn't want as much as they did was NOT EASY and could be dangerous when they lied to others about me to make themselves look better.
To answer your question... I don't agree with "playing hard to get" but I do agree with the traditional idea that women shouldn't make the 1st move.
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Women always treat other women as competition. Even their best friends.
Because of this ALL women will happily give shit advice to other women.
You know who tells women that playing hard to get is a good and successful strategy? OTHER WOMEN.
No man would tell a woman this.
What is playing hard to get…! that can interpret or misinterpreted in so many contexts. Every individual is different you can put them all in the same baskets.
Some general inferences;
1- men play hard to get as well when they are not sure they want a relationship with a woman; 1a-but they would waste her time, while she could have spend that time finding her perfect match.
2- Are you expecting her to immediately invite you to spray your load in her at just a little talk. If she did that would she be cool, or not playing hard to get? There are bordels where you can buy sex with just cash, they don’t play hard to get there.
2a- Historically, many societies have been patriarchal, meaning they’ve been structured around male dominance in various aspects like politics, economics, and social institutions.
2b- Today remnants of patriarchal systems still persist in various forms globally, many societies have been actively working towards more inclusive and equitable social structures. Men created a society where women has a higher self value to uphold compare to men. Stop contradicting everything y’all started.
3- If a woman is playing hard to get, she is probably not interested in you…! Move off…!
3a- Do you think she should settle for anyone, or with any men who court her…? She’s probably not ready mentally and the men putting pressure doesn’t make it any better.
3b- If it’s mutual and and both y’all respect each other boundaries, and values, I’m sure they both will find a way to make it less hard for both of them.
Different cultures, different society has their own way too, on how to court for the best mate. Even in the wild; species of animals the male gotta put the best show to court their female, the female in turn either accept or refuse cause the male is not competent enough or meet their standards for the futures she want her offspring to possess. Anyway I have to much to say…!
So, What’s y’all complaining about?
I automatically place you in a certain category and don’t take you seriously if you’re a player.
good guys, I’m more cautious of, they have my respect and I’m just testing the waters.. def do t want to lead you on or string you along if youve got this good guy vibe thing going on!
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It’s not true. The more I liked a guy, a super hot , attractive guy. The more I put him to the rest. But that’s just me.
I liked his attention on me.Other women gave him ass off the bat. To not lose him. They weren’t wasting any sort of time. And this pissed me off
If she is playing hard to get , do yourself a favor and kick her ass to the curb where she belongs , she is playing hard to get because she no longer cares about you , she just doesn’t want to hurt you , she is more than likely interested in someone else or getting plowed by someone else , Don’t fall for those games , Someone that truly likes you isn’t going to play games with you period
I interpret it as "she is not interested" and I move on. If it is actually a case where she is "playing hard to get", then to me she is into weird mind games and I would equally move on. No need to try to figure out what someone else is thinking.
Yes it is. You're missing the point of what playing hard to get is about. It is NOT a filter that distinguishes between good men and bad men. It's a filter that distinguishes between strong men and weak men. By playing hard to get, women filter out all the pussies who don't have the balls and the social grace to get through some pretty simple shit-tests. The guys who DO get through, need to FURTHER be distinguished between good and bad because stronger guys of BOTH types can survive the playing hard to get routine.
Games are for children. Ask for what you want, and if invited, answer sincerely. If I ask a woman out and she declines or makes some non-committal response, I won't ask again. If she's not interested, then I'm not either.
I can decipher that for you.
If she plays hard to get, then she isn't interested.
If she doesn't play hard to get (e. g. towards the bad men and then they say men are cheaters) then she is interested.
It's kind of obvious to figure it out.
In which are you ending up? Rhetoric question.
Well the purpose of playing hard to get is being hard to get. Not getting into a relationship.
Its a form of counter signalling or showing off to other women. Like taking a weight belt to a running competition.
Of course if one trips over and finishes last then they just look stupid.
Playing hard to get almost always blows up in your face because it appears to be disinterest
she's not playing hard to get, she's just not that interested in you. If a woman is truly interested, you would know it
Isn’t bad subjective? And I don’t think all girls do that
hard to get as in?
if you say sexual stuff then yes i say they should cuz no sane man would date or love a girl who fucks him without a month past at bare minimum (to be honest i believe a marriage worthy girl shouldn't even fuck in the first place until marriage but it is complicated since i also believe marriage without at least 5 years together is a bad idea and i really doubt any man including me would wait that long.)
She's not playing hard to get she just doesn't like u
All women play hard to get, but if she's interested in you then she will make it easier for you. However, if you feel that she's making it too hard, and too cryptic then she's' not that interested and you should move on.
I got so sick of all the games girls used to play when I was dating i was going to just give up on it for a few years or maybe forever.
I've lost interest in hard to get after about an hour of my realizing what is going on. Life is too short and women are too plentiful for that noise.
I think women should be a better judge of character. They should be asking the question how reliable is this guy going to be, instead of how exciting is this guy going to be. That bad guys usually stay bad.
I wouldn't put any effort into a relationship if I didn't see any effort from her. Play stupid games and you'll win stupid prizes
Playing Hard to Get? You mean self Sabotage? People don’t have the patience in todays dating market to play stupid games.
Women just like us bad boys. More poon for me because I'll cuss her out and throw my empty beer cans at her. Chicks love that. 😂 🤣
Women who are truly into you will NEVER play hard to get.
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