Why would a guy reject a hot/attractive girl?

Question

I really can't believe that this shy guy I've liked for such a long time (who gave me all the signs that he likes me too) has kind of rejected me. I told him I like him through text but he didn't reply to that message. After that I talked to him once on the phone and he seemed super nervous and has been avoiding me since.

I'm considered very attractive and I get a lot of attention from guys and he knows that. So I really don't get it, why did he reject me? I thought all guys want hot girlfriends. We barely know each other so it's not because of my personality.

fhziljio · Accepted Answer

Maybe he is too shy and can't handle a woman as attractive as you.
Maybe he thinks you play a prank on him, there are cruel women out there.
Maybe he knows something about you, that you wouldn't consider bad, but is actually a bad sign to a man.

Feminism has damaged the relation between men and women.
Men are weak and shy, while women are off the rails in how they treat men. It might be that he sees you as some kind of predator.

I am just guessing obviously.

My best guess is, that he so shy that it is actually unhealty.
You can try to warm him up, but it will be a huge turn off for you, because all women more or less want a manly man.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Showing you signs that he likes you means that he likes you, not that he would consider dating you. Being very attractive is not enough to consider dating someone. There might be something that is telling him that the relationship between you two might not work (for example if he is religious and you are not, if you are a party person and he is not, if you are into going out and drinking and he is not, etc. Also, he might assume that if he dated you he would have to constantly "fight" for you as you would naturally attract many guys who will want you. Some people also think that very attractive people are more promiscuous.

EmilyRubio · Accepted Answer

You sound like a brony complaining about the friend zone. Are you a "supreme gentleman"? Your arrogance is probably making him insecure. And maybe he likes girls who look a little different from you

witherwing · Accepted Answer

Attractiveness doesn't assure matching personalities. And frankly attractiveness is relative. Just because most people would find you attractive doesn't mean he will.

confusednbored · Accepted Answer

How old and how many relationships have both experienced? If he is too young and inexperienced, he may not ready for a relationship

Kenni · Accepted Answer

Well I know that a lot of guys aren't attracted to girls that are too aware of their beauty

dude64bro · Answer

From what you've written, I'm assuming a couple of reasons why:
1. Attractiveness isn't everything to him
2. He isn't ready for a relationship right now
3. He isn't experienced and is too scared/ wouldn't know what to do (Really unlikely unless he is young)

Tony_1693 · Answer

Lol at these guys throwing shade at you for knowing that you're good looking. You're not full of yourself. Side note.. Never let insecure people shame you for being confident in yourself.

Looks aren't everything as cheesy as it sounds. There are plenty of hot girls that wouldn't get the time of day from me after we hooked up. Is that because I was just a huge asshole? Nah... It's because they were annoying as shit and a lot of gorgeous women are extremely insecure.

Your looks definitely give you the upper hand but you seem to be placing all of your value on your looks since you didn't mention any other positive qualities about yourself. If all you have to offer is your looks, then you're a good fuck and that's it. Maybe he wants something more than just a potential fuck?

Or.. he could just be intimidated. You have to consider both though.

winterfox10 · Answer

Maybe he doesn’t like what little he does know about your personality? I think it’s so funny that women have this impression that guys only value a woman’s looks. I understand where that comes from but I feel like women don’t understand that they need to actually bring something to the table in a relationship.

KingDeAce · Answer

He’s just shy and doesn’t want to mess up his chance with you why don’t you try asking him out or get him some place secluded and ask him directly maybe that will give him courage to say it. I’ve been in these situations and I know

tartaarsaus · Answer

I'm inclined to say he thinks you can do better than him and therefore didn't really respond to that text message. Or he was intimidated because you may have scared him. Just talk to him in person for an actual answer.

Myquietsoul · Answer

Honestly, you sound kinda arrogant. "Everybody wants me and says I'm cute". So... That means what? That you're some kind of goddess? Attractiveness is relative anyway. You may be attractive in your peer group but ugly in another. He probably senses that in your personality too. Plus, It sounds like you just like him because he rejected you and you're just not used to that. If he showed or start showing interest, you'll most likely drop him. Either change your thinking and stop with the arrogance and show him that you want him or leave him alone.

roy_ricky09 · Answer

Well I'll honest here and share a true story.
My girlfriend was super beautiful and the whole town was.. U know...
And one fine day she proposed me and shared her feelings. I didn't know what to do and as I had never been in a relationship before and also scared about many things like being bullied and unwanted fights and all... It also did hit me what if I was being used or being tricked because why would such a beautiful girl talk to me when I was just average or below average guy.
You might not believe, I rejected her for 6 months or so everyday and later on she was able to convince me and it lasted for half of my life time.

DocGuy · Answer

Probably , you have scared the shit out of him. Talk to him. Go on a date like for dinner, any movies. Since he is shy it will take some time for him to open up and be easy with you. Don't rush. Anyways Good luck buddy.

derailwolf67 · Answer

I am a very quiet guy and a very strong will person. I have met many women, and rejected many women. why you would ask me? first reason is they the women thinks they are a great person to have. this to me personally show me that you have nothing to offer in a team relationship. plus this type of women to me, thinks they add to my life. to me, this is acting in a way that there better then me. will one last one to say. guy like me know looks will leave sooner or later- so in saying that I am not looking for a women to complete me or me to complete her, but I am looking for a women to share life together and be a helper for each other in the good and bad times. thank you

djkracka · Answer

Ummmm did you ever think that you immasculated him by basically asking him out? Some guys are weird about stuff like that he might be a virgin and is afraid that you will leave him if his penis isn't big enough or he cums too quick there are plenty of reasons

iamabsolute · Answer

Key phrase: barely know each other. Try opening a line of conversation. He could just be playing juvenile games just to score

4golden2 · Answer

Probs he is scared, scared from you lying to him? or just playing with him? he just don't believe you, I believe that ^^

Otter92 · Answer

Shy or insecure, or he might be I terested in someone else

Tim64 · Answer

He is insecure, doesn't think he can handle it and make a fool of himself. If you like him, make him comfortable and talk about things he is interested in.

Slothium · Answer

For sex I typically wouldn't reject a hot girl unless she is really fucking stupid (loudly stupid, like making a scene) - you know, one of those indiscrete ESFP "triple-sagittarius" types. Can't stand bubbly women like that.

Personality is always important, even for just sexual relationships. If a woman is just a mindless loser imbecile who can't hold a conversation I will reject the shit out of her even if she is Kyra Santoro level attractive. It is what it is.

disgustingweebtrash · Answer

Awww he probably thinks you can do better than him and that gets to him :'(

sickle7760 · Answer

This is bcoz u portrayed urself needy nd. I got approached by a girl who i think I found a bit attractive too but i got scared when she started approaching me via Facebook nd stalking on me. Neediness is a big turnoff fr anyone. Do it with pure love free of outcome. Value urself

Anon-ymous1 · Answer

We do all want hot gfs, so he's probably just shy and thinks he doesn't deserve you. Just be patient. Cuddle with him while watching a movie, at his place. He won't be able to restrain himself.

LawlietL · Answer

Attractive women crave attention. Maybe he just didn't like the idea of having you around.

Sbsbdicjf · Answer

You can pick up on personality within an hour. Lol  It could've been your personality. If I reject a woman, pretty or otherwise, it was her personality. No other excuse.

Mr_Random_Guy · Answer

The first thing that comes in my mind is, that you are not really serious about it and only want to play with his feelings, but who knows.

I was also pretty shy or I still am. I am not sure, but a girl asked me out once at this pretty much freaked me out (I was just surprised about it). Well I didn't want to hurt her feelings, because I wasn't really in love with her. Therefore, I rejected her. Maybe thats what he is doing.

BurnIce2113 · Answer

Being Attractive does give you an advantage but it does not mean we will like just because you are attractive there are other things... and maybe he likes another girl and maybe he was just being nice and you thought he likes you or he doesn't want to be in a relationship right now..

billmymane · Answer

Number of things. Your beauty could be intimidating, he could have a girlfriend, he could be gay but not open,. Men turn down hot women all the Time because she knows she's hot which means she has no heart

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Why would you want a insecure little punk as your man? I can assure he probably thinks you will cheat on him because you're pretty. His lost, not yours.

CT_CD · Answer

Because attractive girls can be rejected to. Just because you're considered "very attractive" doesn't mean every guy wants you

mateoj · Answer

Like you said he's shy try to get him to go on a date with him (cinema or something of his interest where he feels comfortable)

vittle1999 · Answer

Have you asked him directly reason for rejection? Maybe you should rather than asking someone else!

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds like he might just not know how to react.

But also, he may find you physically attractive but just not actually be interested, he doesn't know you after all. Not knowing someone's personality counts as a personality based reason.

blazerock44 · Answer

Atupid pple.. who gives if ur frkin hot? I guess ur used to boys who fuck u only

simplyshredded · Answer

Possible reasons 1. You are not attractive 2. The guy you are asking out is chasing goals and not holes

AsaKyo · Answer

Her personality either sucks or he feels inferior to her

novacore05 · Answer

its your personality, like he might have wanted to know you better first

xakknakk · Answer

Hey, it's not about how u look, may be he doesn't like what you are. May be he doesn't like your personality or nature.

JenDB · Answer

Mmaybe it's because you are so full of yourself? Like girl, calm down

Pinay_ako · Answer

Maybe he got turned off with you.

Partywithtom · Answer

And now you want him more lolol. Don't you.

anoopkalra · Answer

a moron only can do that

shyammake · Answer

Because he is too shy to open his love

Anonymous · Answer

She might not be hot for him

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe you misread them

Insanyx12 · Answer

if they lie or cheat

Nachowedgie · Answer

Because he doesn't find her attractive...

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