Guys, Sex or making love?

[Sebby84]

The guy im seeing had amazing sex last night he held my hand kissing me rubbed my arms held my face and when i was on top kept pulling the covers over me which he never does he honestly quite enjoys tilting sideways to watch my ass…. it felt a lot more intimate or something. I made an effort he wasn't expecting for his birthday last week even thought we aren't yet exclusive and went out at the weekend with my friends and even I say so myself looked amazing. I dont know if these things have changed how he feels or how much more he feels for me?

[FilmGuy93]

Sounds like he was making love to you. It's tough to have sex with someone repeatedly and not develop an attachment to them. You're seeing your partner at their most vulnerable, and it's only natural to want to explore those more private and hidden aspects of who they are.

[Sebby84]

Like its always good sex but it felt different last night he's never undressed me so slowly or cared about where bed covers were or pulled them over me before we always lie and talk for a while after but last night longer and wanted his back tickled. I know girls are over thinkers but it really felt like something had changed

[FilmGuy93]

Yeah =) You felt like he was taking time to savor and appreciate you. This kind of thing is why I say there's no such thing as casual sex; it's always better when you see your partner for who they are.

[Sebby84]

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The only thing is that he still actively uses tinder as far as i can tell from investigating…hes been single a few years i dont know if he just isn't sure about me yet or was using me or didn't trust me yet

[FilmGuy93]

Some people really freak out about verbalizing commitments. I never quite understood it, but people are gon' "people." The piece of advice I give to others in your situation is to take a moment to simply enjoy the situation for what it is. Regardless of whether he's your boyfriend, he connected with you in that moment. Sometimes that moment is all you can ask for, other times there is deeper meaning. The most important thing is that you had a moment of tenderness with someone you trust.

[Sebby84]

Its what im trying to do and not worry about it but i really seen a relationship with this guy until i found out about tinder but nothing between us has changed never any hot or cold we see each other twice a week and really do have a great time together in and out of the sheets and then if anything things seemed even better than theyv ever been last night its so confusing

[FilmGuy93]

Maybe you could wait a few times to see if he keeps touching you the same way before bringing up the change. If it happens 3 or 4 times, you could say that you've been having more fun lately.

[MrOracle]

Do not judge a man's feelings for you based on what happens INSIDE the bedroom - judge it based on what happens OUTSIDE the bedroom. Anything else is a mistake.

[20yearsolder]

It really needs to be a combination of the both, sometimes it's just raw heart pounding sex and other times it's sensual lovemaking. Personally I prefer tons of foreplay, kissing and rubbing and touching and feeling before there is ever penetration

[ArrowheadSW]

Wow it sounds like he really likes you. The amazing sex you describe is what I really miss from a previous relationship.

[Sebby84]

Like its always good sex but it felt different last night he's never undressed me so slowly or cared about where bed covers were or pulled them over me before we always lie and talk for a while after but last night longer and wanted his back tickled. I know girls are over thinkers but it really felt like something had changed

[Sebby84]

The only thing is that he still actively has tinder been single a few years i dont know if he just isn't sure about me yet or was using me or didn't trust me yet

[Anonymous]

Sex is fun, sex isn't love.

love is cleaning the toilets or taking out the trash or coming to change your flat tire in the rain at 2 am.

unless there’s love…it’s all just fucking. Maybe a tender fuck but it’s not making love.

[Sebby84]

Lol so is a tender fuck a good sign of feelings

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe…or maybe he was just tired and wanted you to do more of the work…😉

[boggboss]

Stop looking for confirmation on feelings and love from sex

[Sparkie460]

Sex is just a quickie. Making love is where we take our time and enjoy ourselves in bed. I love both

[RuthlessAggression]

38, and you're not yet "exclusive"? Do you plan on having kids, if you don't already

[Wise4myage]

I say both.

[Sebby84]

Its both?

[Wise4myage]

Yeah, both are awesome.