My boyfriend takes his phone everywhere whether it’s to get water throw away a trash bag, going to the bathroom, etc. should I be worried?

[ISFPCaramelPrincess]

He told me his password but I never try to get into his phone. Yesterday I asked him why does he do this and he said it was because of habit. He was on discord a lot yesterday i asked him if i could see and he said that the 3 hearts that i saw were from a video game review and then the next day he’s barely even answering me could he have found someone new? We’re supposed to get married soon. He’s an introverted nerdy guy could he really cheat on me?

[MrOracle]

I do the same. Why?

1. I have to constantly feed my brain. I have new questions that need answers every day of my life. I am constantly reading and learning, and that doesn't stop if I'm going to the bathroom.

2. I have my own business, and my customers are constantly calling, texting, and emailing me. Many of them can be helped or have their problem fixed remotely, which saves me from driving out to their homes - which is good because I'm usually booked out 10-14 days.

Keep in mind that I have no dating apps and no social media on my phone - GaG is the closest thing to either, but I definitely don't use it like a dating app.

The point is: just because he likes to watch YouTube or play Flappybird on the toilet doesn't mean he's cheating on you.

[ISFPCaramelPrincess]

Yeah i honestly don’t think that he would cheat on me

[boggboss]

Being a nerd or introvert don't mean a person can't cheat lol I equally don't know if he is cheating or not I also tend to take my phone with me where ever I go but it more so because I tend to be using it

[ISFPCaramelPrincess]

But i feel like if you’re introverted you’re less likely to cheat. He didn’t used to do this. And then the next day he’s barely answering my texts he’s getting a chance to sleep over which we rarely get to do and he’d rather spend Thanksgiving in his family. Am I maybe just not a priority?

[boggboss]

No being an introvert don't make u less likely to cheat it makes u less likely to be around women u might want to cheat with but that dont change the person that will cheat also holding it against him that he wants to spend time with family over u in my opinion don't make him a cheater it does seem you two have some big issues and u seem to be insecure also which I think u need to deal with

[ISFPCaramelPrincess]

We have strict parents and my parents will be gone it’s the only way we could get to sleep over but he prefers to stay with his family for Thanksgiving. I don’t know if i was ever a priority

[boggboss]

If u are in the early phases of this relationship and think he will put u over his family I think u might be thinking wrong to be fair

[ISFPCaramelPrincess]

What if it’s been almost four years?

[boggboss]

At 4 years how can u not be allowed to see eachother properly that dont sound like a serious relationship

[ISFPCaramelPrincess]

Strict Christian parents. We are supposed to get married soon and get our own place

[boggboss]

Is this relationship actually progressing or is it all speak and fantasy

[ISFPCaramelPrincess]

We are both working and trying to save 30k together before June I guess it’s progressing but everything is still kind of the same. Yesterday he took so long to even answer my text messages i had to call him to see if he want to stay over he said that he promised me in December to stay over but I don't know why he isn’t taking every opportunity that he could

[ISFPCaramelPrincess]

When we first started dating i was the one that had to ask to hang out more than once a week I honestly don’t know if I’m a priority.

[ISFPCaramelPrincess]

I really don’t want to talk to him not for the next few days

[boggboss]

Maybe this is somthing u need 2 talk 2 him about

[ISFPCaramelPrincess]

I already have at this point he’ll get upset it’s always the same problem with him. He is sweet but I don’t know if I’m his priority especially with how he’s taking so long to answer me on his free days

[boggboss]

Then if its a issue that is not changing u need ti decide if u are happy with it like this or if this is the relationship u want to be In

[ISFPCaramelPrincess]

It seems like momentarily he’ll try to hang out more than he’ll go back to being the same with the hang out thing and I basically show up at 12pm in his house on sundays because i want to spend more time with him if it was for him maybe it would be 3pm

[boggboss]

I see

[ISFPCaramelPrincess]

I guess I’ll never be a priority to him. Is there anything i could do to make him like me more? I guess I’ll just get too busy to text him as much

[boggboss]

Playing Maindy games on a guy that knows u want more attention that he is not willing to give ain't going to help u it will just be temporary fixes

[ISFPCaramelPrincess]

I don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t have the self restraint to not text everyday lol. But now I feel like I need a few days of space I just feel downright disappointed by him. He first promised me to move out by June then he had a moment where instead of doing that he wanted to pursue a career path since he was comparing his life to his cousins. Then when i got mad at him because he made a promise to move out and the assistant career would require too much money he didn’t take it. He made a promise to me and was changing his mind. Now he’s back to i want to move out. I don’t know anymore he is sweet to me but i just don’t know. I feel unsatisfied sometimes

[boggboss]

U have the choice to be with him u are choosing to stay so this is the relationship u want to be I

[ISFPCaramelPrincess]

I do want to stay I don’t think that I could find someone better he is amazing i just feel sad at times like I’m not a priority and I sometimes don’t understand his way of being.

[boggboss]

Because the best person fro u apparently is a guy that dont really care to keep u happy meh fair enough if that's what u think

[ISFPCaramelPrincess]

You really think that he doesn’t care? He wanted me to be with his family on Thanksgiving but i wanted a sleep over

[boggboss]

Here is the thing I don't know I'd he dont care at all but if communication has been a constant bug bear in the relationship and he is constantly moving promises he clearly don't care enough for your happiness

[coachTanthony]

Most guys are not hiding the fact that they are cheating or talking to other women they are hiding the fact that they might be into some kinky shit that they don't want you to know about.

[kitsachie]

I don't know all the circumstances but this is a very classic moment of, I think you're projecting your own insecurities into him. Do you feel inadequate, do you think he would cheat on you? The problem is, this will cause issues for your relationship if you're about to marry him and you're worried he's not faithful. Unless you have proof other than "he takes his phone with him", you're just going to drive a wedge into the relationship.

I've never cheated on a partner but I'm very cautious about leaving my phone places, mainly just because of habit and I'm a forgetful little idiot so I don't like misplacing my phone. I would take a day and sit down with him and talk about your feelings and your insecurities with him, it's very important to communicate that you're having these feelings of insecurity.

[ISFPCaramelPrincess]

I don’t think that he’ll cheat I just found it weird

[kitsachie]

I'd like to think it's innocent.

[FunkyMonkee]

Sounds like an addiction, to me! Doesn't sound like the kind of person I'd want to get involved with!! I've got one that I rarely ever even turn on! It just sits here on the floor next to my computer. I only turn it on when I need to make a call or wait for one to come in. As soon as I'm done with the calls, I shut it off until the next time I need it in a few days.

[molonski2]

None , I do that too..

Agree its not a good addiction , but I wouldn't want you looking though it either.

[ISFPCaramelPrincess]

It offends me if he thinks that I’m going to look through his phone. He appears to be mostly on discord and checking his sports

[molonski2]

How do you know? You checked -- that's what he doesn't like , you are invading his private space , and you are doing it on any number of fronts , with due respect you actions are unhealthy , borderline stalker.

[ISFPCaramelPrincess]

I didn’t check his phone

[ISFPCaramelPrincess]

I asked what he was doing i said that im offended if he thinks that ill check his phone

[BoopBoopBeep]

I would question who would walk away from an easily pawnable device worth in the neighborhood of a grand sometimes. My phone cost $100 and I'm not leaving without it because it has my whole lives on it.

[BoopBoopBeep]

@Trackboy Yeah I'm not clicking that link chief. What is it?

[Trackboy]

check it, its just a pic

[BoopBoopBeep]

@_Maya_

That link from fuqboy... i mean Trackboy... is a browser infection

[BLP11520]

Yes you should be he is hiding something or someone