Why do we ignore obvious red flags just because we feel something powerful?

[coachTanthony]

[ohsheeT]

But it it really that powerful or have we all been brainwashed


Every day there's red flags on the TV that people watch Even in the news people are being brainwashed every single day The Super Bowl Bad Bunny he was all a brainwashed trip

Everything is right in front of us but we choose to close our eyes we choose to quit I guess and I don't believe in that so I guess we wait until that day happens and then we take day by day after that

If I can find it let me see if I can find it and I'll show you what I mean with the Super Bowl with the newscasters watch when elections start again they'll be 50 people on here talking red blue left right they will sound like their favorite newscaster and get a little bit of information so they have to spread it instead of finding out the truth because their brainwashed that's why I quit watching TV 5 years ago I can see it happening down here and every place else all of it big red flag

[HawkPerception]

Well not all of us have all the options in the world, so when someone finally shows some interest, we tend to hold on regardless of the very obvious red flags, hoping something can still foster from it.

[jennifer_bloom]

Some people are so jaded and empty from vanity and pride, they can't find any happiness or emotional pleasure outside of the attractive people they believe they can date, and I mean only superficially attractive traits, not things like kindness or honesty or patience.

Like a 6 year old child, too young to even think about dating, can find millions of interesting things that excite them and none of them have anything to do with dating. But somebody who has operated at a level 1 emotional level for years and years, has nothing else that might give their life joy or meaning.

[7Phoenix7]

Sometimes red flags feel familiar rather than alarming… Like if someone grew up watching unhealthy relationship patterns, those behaviors can seem normal… or even attractive. Without self-reflection or therapy, it’s easy to mistake toxic dynamics for “chemistry” or love..

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to help untangle love, red flags, and all the crazy in-between.

We ignore red flags because emotions hit faster than logic. That “powerful feeling” is basically brain chemistry lovebombing you. Dopamine, fantasy, and hope team up and you start thinking, “I can fix them” or “This time is different.”

Add fear of being alone, low self-esteem, or trauma bonds, and boom: walking past red flags like it’s a parade.

[Chazmatazz269]

Boys and men are rarely taught to set boundaries. We’re not ignoring anything because we weren’t taught to see red flags. Even after i had bad experiences, i was always told to suck it up. It’s my responsibility as a man to be available to women who would use and abuse me. Anything less than complete selflessness makes me a “p*ssy” or a “f*ggot”.


Girls and women are taught all of the red flags and then some, but they know that everything about western civilization is designed to protect them from the consequences of their own terrible choices. So they can take all the risks they want and more often than not they lose absolutely nothing.

[Simslover92]

I think it's just human nature. We all want to be loved and for some people that want takes over having good discernment.

[OlderAndWiser]

If a guy has had an extended drought, hormones can be the most powerfully force in the universe!

[MontBlanc]

It’s interesting, strong emotions can sometimes blind us to reality.

When we feel a powerful connection, our brain tends to focus on the positives and downplay the warning signs.

It’s part of human nature to hope for the best, even when logic says otherwise.

[thegreenyogi]

Because we're human and we want to give ourselves the benefit of the doubt. Which is wrong. We like to believe there's good in everyone but nothing good comes from ignoring red flags. It just makes our life more difficult in the end.

[sage2021]

I don't think it's a matter of feeling powerful, but more like inexperienced at noticing the red flags and what they mean.🚩

[MissSunshine2]

It’s because we want to be intimate with that person. Frequently, madly. Outrageously.

[Bricealan]

@coachTanthony Of course, and much to my never ending regret

[Bricealan]

@coachTanthony My wife had been married 95 times (well really only 6 times) and I married her anyway.

A girl that I contacted after my divorce was one that I had a brief sexual fling with after class in college night classes, DID NOT REMEMBER ME, AT ALL!!! I MOVED HER TO CALIFORNIA ANYWAY

[Massageman]

Maybe because we have seen far too many red flags in our lives? we have just become oblivious to them?

[AngryCarl3]

I call it "relationship blindness". It's not that we ignore red flags, we just don't see them. Not until it's way too late anyway.

[Xoirwinkan]

Some people just don't want to be alone, but I have never ignored serious red flags. For example, in terms of women, I consider them not wanting to have kids a SERIOUS red flag.

[MrChinaski]

I would rather love someone and be crushed than to have not loved them.

[Anonymous]

You're talking about mainly women. And that's because they generally don't use there head when they get in their feelings. Men do this to, but to a lot lesser extent. And men generally learn from their mistakes much quicker than women do, if she ever does. Women like to wrap themselves up in their feelings (both the good and the bad ones). It's also why so many women are the constant victims in everything.

[LC75LC71]

Pure carnal drive! Best thing in existence until it runs out of fuel..

[MrFrenchFry]

The obvious answer is nobody wants to be alone and mental illness is out of control.

[AngryCarl3]

Some people might say that madness is a rational response to a crazy world. Well I might anyway.

[Ms_Facesitter]

I genuinely don't know. I've always run from them.

[OneViewpoint]

Because hormones lead to orgasms.

[Unycorn]

Every rule has an exception.

[exitseven]

When a cat's in need , he's a fool indeed.

[Agape93]

BeCaUsE JeSuS Is KiNg lol

[Anonymous]

Probably cause of the hormones.