Most Helpful Guy
Growing up I was overweight. I was the computer nerd. See before computers were available, it was very "uncool" to like them. I also had an medical condition called Hyperhydrosis. My hands would sweat. Not just damp, I am talking dripping at times. You know those little dixie cups in the bathroom? I once filled one of those in just under 2 minutes. I closed myself off from everyone. No friends, certainly no girlfriends. Eventually I opened up a bit and found a few things that worked a little. But what girl would want to date an overweight guy with sweaty hands? My self esteem was non existent and I figured I would be alone my whole life. I did lose weight finally and that helped. I had a few things that helped my hands but it was always a problem. but i did eventually go on a few dates.
I signed up and was waiting to go into the Air Force. One day my recruiter took 4 of us to the Wright Patterson AFB in Ohio. There were 2 guys and 2 girls. One of the girls had a super crush on the other guy and both were geeked about planes. I was not and neither was the other girl. We spent the whole day together. By the end of our day at the museum, I finally asked her out. That was January 10, 1989. We spent every day but 1 together until I went into the Air Force on Feb 14, 1989. I came home May 27 for memorial day weekend and proposed. We were together 25 years. We have 3 boys. I promised myself I wasn't going to go into the AF with any girlfriend. I didn't think that was a big issue since I never had one. But I met her and it was like a lightening bolt.
You never know when it will happen. Women have it easier because at the beginning you control sex. You can chose to make the first move and you can get that guy you want if you go after him. But you have to be willing to compromise, you have to be willing to go after things. You never know when you will meet someone.0
Most Helpful Girl
Well what have you been doing that makes you feel that way, and what are your dating experiences like if you're actively dating? What kind of relationships have you had? Because the moment you end up having premarital sex, you're already predestining yourself for failure at getting married and staying married. However, if your still a virgin then you have no worries. You're safe as long as you have a healthy opinion about sex. What you decide to do now, especially sexually will determine the kind of partners and life you will have and encounter. Mainly so, if you don't meet the requirements of what the men of your interests NEEDS, not just wants in a partner. All of that has to be considered if you never had problems dating. Now if you have relationship issues, that is a whole another category.
But now the real questions are this IF you are a virgin: Are you actively seeking a marriage partner? At your current age? Did you ever desire to get married young? Even if at 18? Or are you one of those types who believes in waiting till mid 20's or 30+ to get married? When you date, do you talk about what's important to you [marriage & kids] with your romantic interest? Are they even interested for themselves personally? Believes you would make a potential marriage partner? Thing about this. Because if you can't be honest about who you are as a person and what you need in a partner, then you'll be stuck and you may not be mature enough to be married or have kids. Besides, not everybody is meant for marriage or be given into marriage. Marriage and kids is a right and a major responsibility. It is no play thing. You will have to know how you want to raise your children and be ready to be sexually committed to your spouse. That also means having sex when he asks. If you don't like that idea, then marriage is not for you as marriage cannot strive healthy without sex as married men need's that to feel close to his wife.0