Why Would A Stranger Think It's Okay To Inappropriately Touch Someone?

Question

So, the other day after work, stopped off at the casino... Wasn't there long when went out to have a cigarette, went and sat on a bench already occupied by a lady. Wasn't even sitting there but a minute when a guy comes up and says "scoot over"(think he followed me outside, saw him check me out in the casino) Even though scooted over, he sat waaay too close to me. Then he says "Know why I wanted to sit next to you" (duh, yeah I did) Said no to which he said "you were supposed to say why" then he gets up and says I'll be right back, don't go nowhere (wtf) when he left I scooted away from the lady sitting there, then he comes back out so I scooted way over so he wouldn't sit too close again... And he puts his arm around me and grabs my hip (hand was half on hip, half on butt) to pull me close to him... WTF uhh back the fuck up buddy, which is exactly what I said to him.. I got up without finishing my cigarette and said I was going back in and have a good night... He followed me in and said or I could let him take me out... He wasn't bad looking, but after being too bold and handsy, that was a hell no, but I was still polite and just said no thanks... And before some asshat says it was probably the way I was dressed🙄🤦I was wearing joggers and a shirt that don't show any cleavage, any make up had on sweated off at work lol... The point is, look, flirt, but don't put hands on someone you don't even know and think that's okay or acceptable.

ZackBan · Accepted Answer

This story makes me angry for purely selfish reasons.

There are so manny people like this guy in the world that they mess up the standard. Now when I sit next to a woman on the bus or train of anywhere public she will take a defensive position even though I didn't even look at her let alone touch, and I can't blame her because creeps like this are everywhere and no one is willing to take a chance.

Anywho, you don't have to describe what you were wearing, you could have been in a bikini for all anyone is concerned no one has the right to take it as a sign to grope you

rjroy3 · Accepted Answer

That's how I feel about strangers touching the belly of pregnant women. But taking it further. Or people who don't acknowledge you and attempt to touch your dog without asking or your dog going up to them for attention.

It's like there are certain terms for code of conduct. If a dog comes up to you okay you can pet them. If you come up to them and dog us friendly, say hello to their person and ask.

If a woman is pregnant and you want to touch the belly. Say hello and ask before doing lol. Basic shit

the_kisses_of_sun · Accepted Answer

Same happened with me in the bus. I had taken the bus and immediately sat next to a man because it was the only empty seat close to the door. He started to look at me and then slowly put his hand on my lap and squeezed it a bit. I was like wtf and moved away. He then did it again, so I said "can you put your hands off me?". He said "okay" and stopped. Then when I dropped off the bus, he dropped at the same time as me. I thought he was gonna follow me but luckily that didn't happen. I kept an eye on him in case he'd be after me but thankfully he took another route.

RCase321 · Accepted Answer

Guys Do that Nonsense. One evening we were out clubbing. So i had a tight mini dress on and my one friend also had a super tight dress on. Eventually we needed to get some fresh air, so we stood outside and this 2 guys came there walked behind us and both grabbed my skirt and lifted it up and over my head and literally Ran with it. I stood there, high heels. A red low G-string and braless. So my friend tried to cover me. Another guy came past and Spanked me. I started running to the car wich was luckily not that far.

coachTanthony · Answer

Those joggers need to be banned LOL Not sure why guys do this stuff. It's not appropriate with someone you don't know. Has always baffled me.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

He was probably under the influence. Or he is just an asshat.

Tunasub · Answer

Do not violate personal space escially if I don't know you and if I do know you then you know homie don't play that..

The audacity of some people. Now if you would have slapped the snot out of his ass you would be wrong.

I'm on my way to airport fuck this show me what he looks like we are going back to casino.. and wait till I lose a couple hundred and I'm good and irritated before we look for the dead man walking..

Sometime you have to let a mother fucker know that

Bluemax · Answer

I'm sorry that happened.

No boundaries? No brain? Read one too many PUA books? This is something of a mystery to me why some men catcall, send unsolicited dick pics, respect no boundaries, etc. Just on a pure rational level, can't they understand how stupid it is? When in the history of humanity going all the way back to mitochondrial Eve has that EVER worked?

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

A guy did this to my ex girlfriend,

he thought it would be okay to touch her let and squeeze it as he chatted to her.

he came to on his back on the floor of the pub.

he threatened assault and pretty much every person in the bar said she defended herself from being assaulted.

never try that on a girl in her local and definitely not when she is a kickboxing etc instructor lol.

RolandCuthbert · Answer

Wow. Well, at least he wasn't one of those freaks who pull this at the job. I am not saying it is appropriate, but we have guys here who think the job is the perfect place for pulling this kind of stunt.

Anyway, the explanation is, this move has probably worked for him before. Simply bullying a woman into giving it up. I have seen guys pull this. And they think it will work with every woman.

Sun_Kim-Ai · Answer

I'm sorry that happened to you, I hope you are feeling a bit better now.
To answer the question, it's because those people don't understand what being educated, functional members of society means... or more bluntly, they are creeps. You don't touch strangers, simple and clear cut.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I agree with you it's wrong for a person to touch someone inappropriate this Summer at our local amusement park, this man was on this rolly coaster ride and he was in a seat near these two teen girls who were wearing shorts but he grabbed them but thankfully he was caught and he was arrested... Yes no person should touch someone cause it's wrong

Fineold · Answer

Well a lot of men aren't much smarter than a retarded jellyfish. This method of getting to know a pretty woman has a 0% success rate. But many guys keep at it anyway, like the people banging on tree trunks in the woods trying to get Bigfoot to come out and he never does.

Glad you got away okay.

Massageman · Answer

Just goes to show you the dangers of smoking! loL (sorry, couldn't resist).
I guess this one goes under "bad-ass determination". :- )
( I just can't figure out why he had to get up and return. )
Of course, you were right to give him the straight arm in response to his tackle on you.
I guess he missed that day in kindergarten when they taught manners. He needs to learn to respect brains and beauty.

Mark987 · Answer

I can't stand reading this. Some guys think they are gods gift to the world and feel they have the right to do this. That is truly pathetic I am sorry you had to go through this. We aren't all like this but they're a lot of them that feel entitled. Guy needs to get a life

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

An odd story that contains naughtiness by miss brains muffins 😄

That's what happens when the sponge goes without her king, anyways i can't believe how much daring some people are, showing such impolitness to a mature lady...

He's lucky that the sponge wasn't with me cause i'd like to have his hand on my hip too 😈 but sadly it will always remain there and he will leave with no hand 🤚🏻🗡

After that i'll bit the spongy forehead so i recharge the energy that i lost 😂

purplepoppy · Answer

He's probably read some crap online about how girls love confident guys. There's probably an article written by some self proclaimed pick up artist that teaches that technique.

InferiorElegy · Answer

I hate being touched, when I take public transit to doctors appointments I try to always stand because every time I sit in a seat, someone always has to be right against me even when I move closer to the window, they always move closer and it bothers me so much. An the only reason I don't drive to doctors appointments is so I don't have to pay for parking, or a cab.

Sillyboi98 · Answer

That is messed up! He should not have touched you like that. One day I saw this gorgeous thick thighed big booty gal jogging in short shorts. I looked but I didn’t touch. Why? Because I don’t violate females. I am glad you stood your ground in a respectful manner. How old was this dude? He should know better.

wakeupchy · Answer

there's seems to be people out there these days with real boundary issues. he is a self entitled moron that feels there will be no consequences for his actions cause he has probably done it countless times before and got away with it

Lliam · Answer

Mega creepaziod!
You are NEVER allowed to touch someone without their consent. A woman skilled in martial arts would have been perfectly justified in knocking him out with an elbow to the face or grabbing his hand and breaking his thumb or wrist.

spartan55 · Answer

That is so fucked up, I would never even think of doing that. Entitlement? Objectification? I have no idea what runs through those guys minds. Sorry that happened to you, sounds like you handled it well.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

They know it's not okay - they just don't care about the consequences (or haven't faced severe enough ones).

JosyJosy · Answer

I can't give a good answer besides, because they're douchebags, selfish and/or weren't raised right to know right from wrong. And if they KNOW it's wrong they deserve everything coming to them

Dvchill · Answer

Well stop being a woman dam-it 😂😜 sounds like u handled your self quite well fantastic! And he thought he could do that cause mommy and daddy didn’t teach him respect or personal space when he was a little guy

DJB72 · Answer

It sounds like he's a Trump voter. The same type of arrogant crap as "that" open mic recording.

Sexist, misogynistic, choose whatever word you want. It's bordering on sexual assault. Technically it was actual assault as he touched you in a way you didn't invite.

Next time apply your knee to his nuts. Twice so he recognises the first time wasn't an accident.

fr44c3iqqs · Answer

They probably like to go after their ego, think that there is a chance of someone liking it (by which in rare cases, someone will, but it’s not an excuse to do that), or think that the way they see each other supposedly indicate interest or like that they are going to be into them.

Medhat-M · Answer

This made me angry... Yeah there are creeps like that... They're usually in places like that and they usually go for women who are alone and seem like they're too nice to make a scene... Sorry you've been through that... stay safe

DWornock · Answer

That is sexual harassments. Tell him to follow you inside. Once inside and in a crowd say, "If you want more give me $250." You can negotiate down to $100. After he gives you the money say, "That's my charge for sexually harassing me. Goodbye." and walk away. If he attempts to stop you scream loudly, "Leave me alone you creep." He will want to hide and will leave with his tail between his legs. In the extremely unlikely event, he doesn't, other men will quickly come to you assistance and he will be arrested.

EmbraceThePain · Answer

Lots of reasons.  Maybe he/she wasn’t conditioned in the same way as you growing up or perhaps he/she red the social situation incorrectly.

NathanDavis · Answer

they are not "thinking" they're being impulsive, weaker than their urges 'cause they're messed up

Andres77 · Answer

Sorry... I don't know why anyone would feel okay with just feeling up a stranger as appropriate. Sorry you have to put up with that shit. Not justifying it but was he already drunk?

SweetTay · Answer

If a guy is rude like that it's probably because he is dumb and can't take hints.

DonkeyDan · Answer

Yeah there's confidence and boldness then there's this creepy guy lol

IAMNathanael · Answer

Gees, I guess some guys are even more bold than johnny bravo and have no respect for personal space

JoyGirl · Answer

Maybe it is a sign that you haven’t lost your looks. 😅 Either way, gross.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Cause there assholes! I mean think about it for a second I don't think its appropriate for me to walk up and touch a strangers hand so you know they have to be crazy to think they can walk up and touch your private parts

loveslongnails · Answer

Oooh... joggers and a shirt with NO cleavage ? Damn girl, you were asking for it !! I'm soooooo excited right now. Let's go for a smoke !! :-D

dreamstar72 · Answer

You should have drop your cigarette in his lap as your got up. Then say oops sorry

pinaypixie · Answer

Maybe they just weren’t raised right. Haha that’s def it

exitseven · Answer

It is only appropriate if you are the President or the Governor of New York.

Hulk30 · Answer

well this goes into the whole deal of gettin sexual with women verbally and especially physically before a connection is made which is socially awkward

Jjcatt · Answer

When he got up and said I’ll b right back don’t go anywhere that was your cue to go to the manager and complain, the guy is a creep, unfortunately I know guys like this and they think women are objects, next time don’t let a guy have an opportunity to take advantage

douride2 · Answer

The nerve of some people. If some stranger tried that with me he would have gotten smacked or worse.

LemiaOfChampions · Answer

Simple because of fear, if a girl gets touched by someone she doesn't know she is gonna be too scared to report it.

AndrewMG · Answer

That's dodgy mate! I mean I used to regularly touch people in my sporting days even then I felt uncomfortable and I was usually too slow to catch up with them lol

FatherJack · Answer

As I'm non tactile to humans , I don't get this... this bloke has obviously not learned boundaries , agree with @coachtanthony.

FalconTakanashi · Answer

Because they're misogynistic vermin who think they're entitled to a woman's body.

Rachel599771 · Answer

That is totally unaccteptable and disrespecting womans rights he is such a jerk if you see him again just ignore him

Anonymous · Answer

ah so he's one of those two types. he's the cocky arrogant testosterone jerk type. (the other type would of been the pathetic beta pua with his retarded asinine keno shit)

fred_durst · Answer

i bet he is from japan , men in there can grope girl in public and police won't give a fuck

eagle1951 · Answer

you said he wasn't bad-looking. maybe he thinks his looks give him the right to do that. bad parenting grow up for sure

he-takes-a-part · Answer

Seems like you are discriminated within yourself. (Touch there touch there not wtf)
To some that guy can be good to some he might not.
Reading the post made us see your reflex and not response.
Tomorrow if you like that thing you are not coming to accept it here.
In that sense guys intentions was more clear to the community.
Yours was no where a fault as per the post. But she just tried to check
Girls owe one chance to guys. That is a conjecture. But now how that chance is to be exercised that depends upon guy.

Citizenkirk · Answer

Isn't that what deranged creeps usually 🤔 think 🤯?

jeffryrobertbabb · Answer

These days, most men know they can make a move on a girl without an invitation. This man obviously hasn't learnt the lesson. This sort of behaviour is not OK.

Anonymous · Answer

that's why they're called "strange"ers. They be strange. Sad to see this post turn into an attack on men, as there are clearly a large number of women who initiate the same unwanted contact-- but society keeps trying to say it's okay because "men like it".

Alexalex92 · Answer

Whaaaattt? I should be there with you to protect you!

Slim57 · Answer

They know its not okay they just dont care, they have no moral compass

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

They don't think it's okay, they just think they can get away with it.

Weasel1983 · Answer

Oh hell no. Too bad I wasn’t close by. Im sure l would have found a pothole to fill

River1234 · Answer

What the hell! I can't believe men's can be this trashy. 🤨😟 Don't be offended good ones.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

If anyone thinks something is ok theyre probably not thinking its inappropriate. They think its ok, probably until someone else says it isn't

Joker_ · Answer

They obviously know that it's not okay to inappropriately touch others, but they'll do it anyway because they're feeling horny

Wise4myage · Answer

They know its wrong, but they can't help themselves?

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