Is it okay I want to be a "whore"?

[Anonymous]

This isn't a joke question by the way I'm very serious and want to hear your opinions

I've been very insecure about something on my body that I'll finally get fixed this week via plastic surgery. I'm 20 and a virgin by choice, I've rejected many men because of my deep insecurity and I was never able to live life and do normal things

I'm very lonely and don't have friends at all. I'm horrible at keeping and finding friends and it's always been this way. All that's ever happened to be is to be left alone after being used and abused. The only thing that comes to me by choice is men

I know it sounds sad but I kind of plan on being a whore when I get this surgery done. I plan on finally going to rock clubs or whatever. I feel that if I get with random men I'll at least stop being lonely, at least for a brief moment. What are your thoughts

[Lliam]

It sounds like you just want to be sexually active and not be an actual prostitute.

Whores/prostitutes make a living by trading sex for money. It can be a very dangerous business.

I see nothing wrong with being sexually active, though. Normal people are, regardless of the opinions of those who think women should remain "pure" and virgin until marriage.

Sex is a great experience. In fact, it can be the best thing in life if done right.

If you are contemplating going to clubs and engaging in one night stands, I figure why not, as long as you use protection against STDs and pregnancy. I would advise getting on some form of contraception to protect against pregnancy. And insist on condoms to give you at least some protect against STDs. The best protection against STDs is to assess the guys. Don't just fuck anyone who wants to fuck. And flat out ask them if they have herpes or anything else. But still use a condom.

Don't expect to get respect from hook-up partners. They will willingly use you and then leave. I don't know that they will make you feel better about yourself, but at least you'll get to have sex and gain experience.

I would highly recommend getting an attractive hair style, learning how to apply tasteful makeup, and getting some clothes that flatter you body. But don't try to look like a hooker. Good guys aren't attracted to girls who look like whores.

Work on your self esteem and learn some basic social skills.

Be a bit selective about whom you hook up with. Guys respect that and find it attractive. It's ideal if you already know them, their lifestyle and reputation through mutual friends.

You might watch some tutorials on giving blow jobs, and practice on certain fruits or vegetables.

Your first time having sex should be with an experienced guy who will be gentle and make it special. Tell him that you are a virgin.

Once you get some practice and are comfortable with sex, you can try other guys. Gain knowledge and experience.

Ideally you will eventually find a nice guy who really likes you. The best sex is when you and your partner are mutually infatuated, can't get enough of each other, and want to please each other.

Know that a small part of attraction is physical. People fall in infatuation or love because of personality and totally overlook physical characteristics that you, yourself, might be insecure about.

[MrOracle]

As others have said, you might feel better for a few moments, but when those moments are better, you'll feel FAR worse than you feel now, and you'll spend far more time in those low feelings than you will on your "highs."

It seems almost certain to me that you've experienced some serious trauma growing up. I don't know what that is - and I don't need to know - but it's definitely affected your self-worth and confidence. You're essentially trying to self-medicate in an effort to avoid the real treatment that you desperately need so that you can actually get HEALTHY - it would be like if you had a shattered leg, and instead of getting surgery to put your leg back together, you decided that you'd just drink and stay drunk to try to manage the pain and your inability to walk. Drinking might dull the pain for a while, but you'd drink yourself to death in just a few years with that plan.

Of course you know that you can get male attention - and, a bit of their money and lifestyle for short periods of time - by giving them sex. It might even be fun at first, much like getting drunk can be fun at first, but if you are doing this every day, the fun will go away and the misery will be with you 24 hours a day - and the depths of that misery will make whatever you're feeling now seem like a party.

Please, seek some professional help (therapy), and try to find a healthy path in life. You potentially have 50 or 60 more years of life left - that's a long time - but you certainly can destroy your future at your age if you choose to. I don't recommend it, but ultimately, it's your life. You can do what you wish, but likewise, YOU will bear the consequences of the decisions you make.

[LazerBean]

You sound like someone who is going to need to keep the suicide prevention hotline phone number handy, especially once you figure out that whoring is going to make you even more depressed.

[Anemone978]

You will only end up hurting yourself more if you go this way... You need to learn to love yourself only then will other relationships start to become better...

[Guy13]

Your reasoning is flawed and the outcome will be the exact opposite. Your loneliness and emptiness will be amplified.

[Miristheiss]

All the testimonies and studies I've read and hear is that the women who live such lifestyles are not happy. They ruin their natural ability to fall for and love and stay with one partner, their ability to pair bond is kind of fried, they feel used and worthless as endless men just bail once they've used her body for sex and they feel no one really loves them for them or cares about them. When they look around and see men and women in relationships, married, with families and they are alone after their latest chad F-ed them and then took off, never to be heard from again they feel pretty bad about it.

Your chance of getting diseases goes up.

I'd say there is a good chance there will be consequences and that many years into you phase, you'll regret it and feel pretty disgusted with yourself.

[Anonymous]

Well you don't need surgery to be a whore first of all.

You sound like many of the other whores on this site that erroneously think they are taking control by sleeping around. Let me be clear. I don't have a problem with you doing this. But I think you're going to find as these women do eventually that the only thing they controlled is who the slept with. Which was always in thier control before they went on a "whore tour"😆. You can't make people love and care about you through manipulation. Nothing worth having ever comes easy hun.

Good luck!

[Asker]

Thank you, it's not about control like that at all for me. I'd love to find someone to be with but I think I just can't and my loneliness is just on a different level. I just want to do something I've never expected of me either I guess

[Opinion Owner]

Well it's your life. I just think you'll regret it later. If you're waiting for someone to fill the loneliness in you you'll always be empty. Believe it or not this comes from within. Take it from me I've been single my whole life. I'm not lonely because I still have family and friends that care about me. I know my self worth.

[MementoMori777]

I think it will make you feel worse, because they will only use you for sex and I know over time that will get to you, I can't tell you what to do but I can try speaking some sense to you, you've valued yourself for so long with insecurity and all and when you made a choice to make yourself physically more attractive you are gonna throw it all away, it doesn't make sense to me, it would make more sense that whoever deserves you, gets you.

[Jerre]

Sounds like you just want to be sexually active. You don’t need to be a whore to do that. Just find some guy friends and be friends with benefits with them. Just fuck them, be friends. I have lots of friends with benefits and fuck 4-5 times a week. I love this lifestyle, but it’s not for everyone.

[Jerre]

Thank you for the Like

[TheSpaceGnome]

You will still feel lonely because none of those guys will love you. And when you catch an std or become a single mom, you will have "forever alone" status.

I'm a virgin too, but I'm waiting for a match before having sex, she has to be a keeper.

I advise you wait for a match as well.

[Asker]

Why would I be a single mom? Protection and abortion exist

[TheSpaceGnome]

Protection fails, most babies are born while condoms and bc were used.

Abortions are risky to your health, so while they are sometimes needed, its unwise to use them as a go to conctraception method, its meant as an emergency solution.

If you are willing to risk your health doing repeated abortions and cosmetic surgery, you are better off getting a tubalcoagulation, the initial procedure is riskier, but its a permanent fix, so you aren't repeatedly in the hospital (Besides whores aren't fit to be moms anyway)

None of that will protect you against stds though, so your best bet is tubalcoagulation, and a husband.

That way you won't feel lonely, and you will get sex, but pregnancy and stds won't be a risk.

[Sleeper07]

Absolutely not okay to be a whore, when you are selling yourself for sex it's wildly unethical. Sex should be free, and consensual, not a business. It is not a form of self love to prostitute yourself.

I also see dating for sex as unethical too, again sex is a natural part of life, and shouldn't carry multifaceted steps to enjoy in life as much as people endorse it.

Love someone, give them adoration and respect, and make sure to acknowledge their boundaries.

[Anonymous]

Your problem is a lack of self love, its very common, people try to 'fill' the hole they have inside themselves with all sorts of things, sex, drugs, food, money, shopping, chocolate, attention etc but all of this is in vain, you might find some short term distraction from these things but it won't and can't make you happy.

There are many resources online which can help you with self love, care and validation etc.

[msc545]

You can do this but you may get very depressed as a result.

[Asker]

I already am lol. I just want to escape

[msc545]

This will probably make your depression worse.

[Anonymous]

I don't care womens issues. As long as they don't care mens issues. I see more and more women become misandrist in todays society. They are seeing men as wallets and they never support mens rights. So women are not important for us anymore. Because women became very misandrist. You can be whatever you want. Just don't be a misandrist. Don't be a feminist. You should be a masculist. Then you can be a whore.

[Asker]

I'm not a feminist lol

[Opinion Owner]

haha thats nice. I liked it. I am proud of you! Girls like you are the real girls. We men love women like you <3 I really appreciated it.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

As long as you don't hurt anyone, like cheating or deceiving a guy on the paternity of a child , there's nothing inherently wrong with whoring around. You do you.

[Anonymous]

it's not going to fix what's broken inside of you and will only make things worse and complicate your situation more for the worse. work on yourself work on your insides who you are rather then whoring yourself out. if you don't follow this advice and you follow the path you plan on following then you'll be 30-40 or 50 and regret your life choices you made

[Fromdusktilldawn]

as a whore you might run into bad people and drugs

[Asker]

Yes I'm aware

[HighValue]

You will ruin your chances of ever having a good partner if you do that.

[Anonymous]

Been there. It can be fun for a while, but the fun won't last.

[riverrat3]

Life is made for living, live the life you are comfortable with, let no one judge you, go girl

[ThomasDavid1989]

Whore means being paid to have sex. That's illegal

[Asker]

No that's not what I meant. I think slut would be the better word English isn't my first language

[ThomasDavid1989]

Yeah. Whore is paid to do it. You should just be a whore then, if you're going to be a slut, might as well make money while doing it right?

[Anonymous]

Yeah be a whore with many sides that imply all me :D

[AngryCarl2]

What surgery? Are you trans?

[Asker]

I'm not mentally ill. I'm a girl who barely has an A

[AngryCarl2]

Well there's a fine line between being deeply disturbed and being mentally ill. But your life is a journey only you can take.

[Marked_Man]

You will end up forever lonely and used.