The guy I like basically told me likes me around a week ago, but recently he's been acting distant. Is there a reason?

[Anonymous]

Alright so the guy I like said things like "is it not obvious I like you lol" and "I'd consider loving you one day" to me around a week ago, but recently he's been replying slower (from like a few minutes to 2 hours) and seems like he's acting distant. Just last night I asked him if he thinks he likes me (to confirm he still has feelings) and he replied "I'm not sure how you want me to answer that lol". He then replied with "I think you're cute." When I brought up how he said he'd consider loving me one day, he called me delusional and said I needed sleep (it was very late). I then send him the screenshot where he said it and he put emphasis on "consider loving" and how he needs to stop loving someone else first. When I asked if it was an ex (he told me about all his exes), he said "not gonna answer". He's told me all about his life, exes, and TMI things, I just don't understand why he's acting distant and not answering a lot of questions recently. I could care less if it's an ex and we're not even dating, so he should be able to say it's an ex from a friend's perspective. Am I overthinking? Has he found another girl? Is he just going through something? Maybe just not confrontational? I see him playing games all day (I guess it's kinda his job) so I don't know if it's cause he's "busy"... ahhh I'm driving myself insane please let me know any insight thank you~

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Edit: Call me cringe but I met him online and we have NOT met in person yet~ we both have active social lives online and like to play video games so we have that in common

[Anonymous]

“I’d consider loving you one day”, to me that’s not only rude/insulting, but a big a red flag right there. You don’t just pick and choose when to love someone and when you allegedly like them a lot or see “love” potential then you certainly wouldn't string her along, and by her I mean you. if I were in your shoes I’d cut this guy loose. He just doesn’t seem very mature at all with his approach to dating, like gaslighting you when you recall certain interactions and being so wishy-washy about his feelings. Not only that but by saying things like “I’ll consider loving you”, he’s treating his affection as if it’s an honor for you to experience and that’s just disgusting. Most likely this behavior has grown and evolved with each ex, but he’s not turning into a better man he’s just becoming more toxic and full of himself. Then when you look to him for reassurance he brushes you off and makes it seem light-hearted and joking, but all that does is create doubt and insecurity in your mind, which is not something you should willingly set yourself up for more of. Get yourself a solid grown man, not some childish player.

[kylee2437]

You should drop him honestly. A guy that isn’t sure, will never be sure or will only be sure when it’s too late.

[spartan55]

It's possible he found someone else, but don't make the mistake of assuming (which girls often do). Are you showing him any interest? Told him you liked him? Anything?

[Danny_dan92]

He found a better girl. Women do this to men too.




Welcome to dating in 2022

[kylee2437]

Eh saying someone is a “better girl” is off putting. This person may be a great catch, but too many people like to play mind games

[Danny_dan92]

Because of the internet. Sure initially someone might find that you are attractive when you message them. But then someone else that you find more attractive than that person could do the same thing and bam.

Just like that you now became irrelevant to them. Men and women do this.

[Anonymous]

Welcome to the wtf side of dating
People are going to say he lost interest
I say he is a piece of shit..
I hope you don’t feel hurt 🥺

[Opinion Owner]

Is there any good you guys can meet in person? I think he is acting distant because he doesn’t see any hope with this “ relationship” and also he can easily slip away since he doesn’t have any proper connection with you. You’d an hang on into him but if you don’t meet soon this can die quickly. Meeting in Person is important you can decide and talk about it with him

[Opinion Owner]

Is there any way *