Yes, it is absolutely fair for you to be sad about this. I think most any girl would be. At least valentines day and your birthday. Not-so-much the women's day (it's just not as big of a couple's holiday). But your feelings are quite reasonable.
Now, I'm trying to hold back really really hard from letting my true feelings about a guy who wants a trad-wife bleed-through in what I'm saying here. But I would like to point out... that as a guy looking for this type of relationship... he is EVEN MORE duty-bound to remember these sorts of things (for your sake) than your average boyfriend/husband. This should be an even bigger deal to him than it is to most guys. I've never even heard of a guy who was this bad at forgetting. I've got a friend who just broke up with a guy for forgetting her birthday (not that I'm saying that's a warranted consequence... but it's a big deal to women that their partner remember those important days.)
Your question makes me sad, because you don't even seem to realize that you've got an excellent reason to be upset about this. This is very normal, and very ok. Please give yourself "full permission" to be sad, angry, frustrated, all of that stuff. It's warranted.
And sometime when you AREN'T as upset about it. You should explain to him how he's making you feel by not remembering these special occasions. Explain that it would be a considerable addition to your overall happiness if he could be more thoughtful about remembering those special days. Explain what it means to you that he remembers.
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Who cares about how you feel if those feelings don't motivate you to do something about your situation? You are within someone who you think doesn't care much for you. Why?
- s
It’s reasonable for you to feel sad. Have you communicated with him about this? How you would like for him to get your a rose or chocolate or something on Valentine’s Day and women’s day? My partner never got me things for Valentine’s Day because he didn’t think I wanted anything, so I sat him down and talked to him about how much I would appreciate it if he did something for me to show me that he loves me on that day. Since then, he gets me something or he plans something special for that day. Asking for the bare minimum is not unreasonable.
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Then we might actually get along okay. Those are literally two days that matter to me even less than president’s day.
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He's a man... So why would "women's" day be even on his radar?
Shouldn’t you be sadder that no one celebrates men’s day? Everything just has to be about women, huh? This is why I would rather die alone. Women just have to make everything about them.
It is time to get out of the toxic relationship fast.
valentines day yes. women's day doesn't exist
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