Women may be more materialistic, but there is a difference between that and being shallow. Shallow implies that you care about status or that your inherent sense of worth is connected with trivial material things. This tendency is much more common in men who care about status and what others think about them.
Women on the other hand are materialistic simply because they enjoy material things and may be a bit simpleminded. Their reasons are not necessarily shallow though like men.
I wouldn't use the word shallow per say... but women are definitely more materialistic. Like crows... you gotta shine to catch their eye. Guys do care about physical appearance a lot but are willing to bypass that if there's a solid enjoyable personality. With women, personality only goes so far, it has to come with everything else under the sun, most of which are contradictory opposites of each other. plus, how many guys have you heard that have turned down girls before because of appearance... compare that to the amount of times girls have turned guys down before they could even utter a word. the ratio is ridiculous.
Men requirements for a girl to be in relationship with him: 1. Be loyal 2. Be kind and show love towards him 3. Don't be a bitch or crazy 4. Be attractive (to him at least) 5. Don't be fat (Just requires self control). 6. Don't be clingy 7. Don't be controlling
Women's requirement for a man to be in relationship with her: 1. Make more money than her. 2. Be popular or of high social status. 3. If 1) or 2) are lacking then you must be better looking (nice face~Genetic) than her 4. Must have nice car, house, and any other material possesion you can fathom to show your wealth 5. Must dress nice and have nice clothes. 6. Must be certain height and race (genetic).
Shallow- Judging a person based strictly on looks, not factoring in their personality whatsoever. It's difficult to say as both sexes are shallow, in very different ways.
Sure, women may be more easily wooed by material things. Largely owing to societal norms such as men paying for meals, being the ones to buy their girl some fancy Valentine's/birthday gifts, etc.. Women also will prefer a better looking guy than a not so attractive one, which would seem like a logical conclusion. Not shallow, though. You could say that women 'don'f factor in a man's personalty and only care about his appearance/income' but ni doing that, you're just upholding a classic female stereotype. Do you mean to tell me that I didn't consider my boyfriend's personality as crucial, ir not more important than anything else before we got together?
Men are superficial as well. Perhaps not so much when it comes to materialistic things but I'm sure we've all heard the average male's conversation with friends, and how a large portion of them will involve commenting on how a girl is a 'dime', 'nice tits', a 'butterface', etc.. All of which are comments involving their judgement and value they place on a woman's appearance. Not once have I heard a guy saying 'yeah, she's okay. A bit chubby and tits are kinda saggy but... we get along so well. She's a great girl so maybe I'll give things a try.
Men and women are both equally shallow. But honestly, it really isn't shallow in the first place. Both react the same way, but it is so often referred to in negative ways.
People cannot help how they naturally feel/react to something. Women are constantly vilifying men who won't go out with overweight women. But a man cannot help the fact that he does not find an overweight woman to be attractive. Some do, don't get me wrong. What I am saying is that whatever a person is turned off by, they cannot help that fact.
Although I will admit that a slight percentage less women turn down men because of looks. But that percentage is more than compensated due to the fact that they will turn down a man who has no job, no car, and/or lives at home with his parents. Men, the majority of them, will not turn down a woman for these reasons. These are just as exterior as looks, but women often advocate that them turning down a man based on these reasons is okay because they claim that a man lacking these things indicates a personality trait that they do not find attractive. Well, the same argument can be made for women who cannot control their eating. But again, women are not wrong for not wanting to date such a man. They cannot help that they are turned off by a man lacking these things. Neither is a man for rejecting a woman due to looks. But women who are under the mistaken impression that men are more shallow, need to recognise that if it can be referred to as shallow, then women are just as much so.
I was just reading something that I figure is relevant.
This is an analysis of OkCupid messages received by men and women of varying degrees of attractiveness. Granted, the 2 most attractive women got SO many more messages than any of the other women. However, all but the least attractive woman received more messages than the MOST attractive man.
Granted, this is when it comes to APPROACHING someone. It seems that while men are much more likely to approach beautiful women than women who are less beautiful, but still more likely to approach less beautiful women than women are likely to approach men at all. It takes a VERY attractive man for women to approach at all.
So it seems that men are simultaneously *more* shallow and *less* shallow.
I don't really know. I've met shallow men and women, but definitely a lot more shallow men. Don't you know by asking questions like this the men on here will jump to attack women in every way, shape and form? They're in denial and don't want to accept anything.
I don't understand why everyone is making everything about their all-important pride. You can't generalize women as shallow just like you can't generalize men as shallow. We are all individuals, and in the end we are all different people.
What you call shallow some people might call discriminating. I wish I knew where these buzzwords came from. They're just ways of guilting people. Everyone wants to be attractive and find someone they find attractive. That isn't shallow because you can be attractive, intelligent, and thoughtful... it's about the whole package.
No, psychologically speaking, men are more shallow then women when it comes to physical looks by nature (trying to find good looking females to reproduce with as beautiful women are considered subconciously healthier) . But because of media, both genders became even more shallow having unrealistic expectations.