Why would a guy choose to date a girl with small boobs if he could get a girl with big boobs?

[Anonymous]

There's this guy who seems to really like me. He is very handsome and nice. He can choose from almost any girl he wants. I have small boobs AA cups. Another girl seems to be interested in him, she is very pretty and has big boobs D or DD cups. She always try to flirt and show her cleavage to him. She has a very nice body in shape of hourglass that men like. He seems to ignore her but he always smiles at me and tries to talk to me. His friend told me he really likes me. Why? He can have a woman who looks like a woman but he would rather be with a girl who has very small breasts and almost no curves? I feel that I'm not enough woman for him and maybe he just wants to pull joke? But he doesn't seem like the man who breaks girls hearts.

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All these answers were horrible.

[Dandeus]

Some guys actually prefer small boobs, first of all.

But most don't care. Boob size just isn't important. Even for guys who care about boobs, there's things like shape, perkiness, proportion to body, nipple size, areola size, skin quality that all factor into whether a pair of boobs are great. I've seen some amazing big tits, and some really awful ones as well. If your competition has droopy, floppy, veiny, stretch marked DDs with irregular areolas that point at the ground when she's naked, your perky, smooth skinned, hard nippled AAs are going to more appealing to most guys, despite being smaller.

But at the end of the day, the face is the #1 most important physical feature for guys, and personality is even more important if we're looking for a relationship.

Fact of the matter is that boobs are just boobs. Even just below the neck, you've got your ass, hips, legs, and stomach as the other obvious considerations. Then you have guys who worship feet, or collarbones, or long slender necks, or other specific details you never really think about.

Boob size is really one VERY tiny aspect of all the different things that can be attractive on a woman.

[ThisDudeHere]

Believe it or not but many men have this thing for women with your figure. He's not pulling any thing here, his attraction to you can very easily be legit.

If one were to try and explain why some men think this way, it could have something to do with you looking more girly (which means you're more fun), while a woman with more womanly features looks more mature (thus less interesting).

None of that has to be the case, but the subconscious mind works in mysterious ways.

[SammyGurl]

It's not just your body, breasts which attract guys. Believe it or not there are guys who could care less that a girl is top heavy, some even see it as unattractive. Obviously he sees more that two blobs of concentrated fat on your chest! More like he sees your personality, your fun to be with, he can talk to you... He's attracted to you, because of you, because you are who you are!

[dolphiny]

not everything is about boobs.. your personality is probably better, and he vibes better with you. this means he likes you better. and maybe he likes smaller boobs? and if she tries too hard to be flirty and show her cleavage off, she probably doesn't have a decent personality.

[Angel_Roux]

Boobs aren't everything. And maybe he likes small boobs. People like that exist. Personality also comes into play. Maybe both of your personalities are more compatible than him and the other girls. Curves dont equal a woman. Real women come in many different shapes and sizes.

[xxxHolicxxx]

Perhaps because he's not shallow and he's attracted to you as a person? He sounds like a catch to me! :)

[heavensgift2girls]

Are you implying that a woman's worth is directly related to her boob size? Do you have any idea how silly that is? If you have been made fun of in the past it was because you exposed an insecurity you had, and an asshole decided to hurt you for no other reason than they could. That is just what bullies do.

Guys like a far wider range of women than the media would have you believe. Every guy has his own preferences which means that there is no perfect body shape. It depends on what the guy likes.

You don't need to be a man's ideal in every way to have him love you. Even if a guy does like bigger breasts you could have another trait he likes so much more that even girls with big breasts don't have a chance against you. His preferences are his own. All you need is you accept that there are plenty of guys that will find you attractive.

[Asker]

Men treat women with big boobs a lot nicer than women with small boobs.

[heavensgift2girls]

That is just your perception. People commonly assume people like whatever trait they don't have more. Tall girls want to be shorter, short girls want to be taller, and so on. If you woke up tomorrow with your ideal breast size you would most likely just find something else to be insecure about.

If guys are nicer to them a large part of that would be the woman feeling more confident and making the guy feel comfortable. When you treat a guy that approaches you like he just wants to pull a prank on you by pretending to like you, he often picks up on that vibe and leaves you alone.

[kaylaS91]

As a girl with larger than average boobs, I'm gonna have to pipe in that no, guys don't treat me any nicer than women with small boobs. Yes, I may garner more of their short-term attention should I want for that to happen, but it's purely sexual. Often I find that works against me, as it takes some effort to filter out the ones who actually find ME attractive, or want to get to know me as more than just a pair of boobs.

[Asker]

If a girl with cleavage needs help and a flat chested girl need help, the girl with cleavage would receive a lot more help from guys.

[kaylaS91]

... I've never experienced such a thing. If that does happen though, aren't you glad to have learned that the guy is a complete ass sooner rather than later?

[Asker]

Men are asses for helping women?

[lumos]

Lmao girl you need to take a seat. Not everything is about boob size, you should know this by now if you really are 18-24. There's more to attraction than boob size, there's more to relationships than boob size. NOT EVERYTHING just boils down to boob size. Stop thinking so lowly of guys AND yourself and start appreciating the fact that someone actually seems to like you for who you are and not for your boob size. Come on now.

[the_champ]

It's offensive as a guy tbh to hear this from the asker, and the more I think of it, it's just as offensive to girls too.

[lumos]

@the_champ exactly! It reduces women to nothing but boobs, and it reduces men to nothing but boob-crazed humans who doesn't give a shit for women besides for their breasts :/ it's truly saddening.

[lumos]

who don't*

[the_champ]

Saddening is the exact word.

[Meesterlijk]

He really likes you! Don't be insecure about some other girl's breasts... Tits are not as important to guys as girls think they are. (They are soft though..) A cute smile and pretty face are in most cases what attracts a guy the most of all physical features. (And even then, personality is more important than looks!) You're not just 'a girl with small boobs'. He's attracted to you and maybe even in love with you. Trust me, most guys would never 'pull joke'. Most guys just want to have a really nice girlfriend. And you may be his really nice girlfriend. If you like him the way he seems to like you, give him a chance! You may end up very happy together!

[Asker]

But I am ugly. She's beautiful, inside and out. She can walk into a room and have any man she wants and I would get lucky if even one man ever asked me out. My face and body are ugly, she is has everything. I refuse to date him because he can do better.

[parkway]

You are the problem. I would not date you for a simple reason your self negative attitude.

Not everyone is into a woman wearing to big milk sac off the front of their chest. They are just glands and in some countries they are made very sexual and other they are just what they are.

The best times of my life have been with small chested women, in short God knows where to hide true beauty. Rethink your thinking it is flawed the moment you feel good about you, life begins for you.

[Ozanne]

With your logic I would have never been rejected by any guy, like ever. I have big boobs and I have been told I'm pretty, yet guys still passed me over for women very different from me. I'm blonde, and I know some men like dark haired women. I'm short, and I know some men like taller women. I'm independent and some men are intimidated by that. I come from a good home and I know some men for whatever joke of a reason, like some women who are needy with problems (and yes, it was revealed to me by one guy who admitted this to me). So whatever the case, men have types, and though a guy might to look at big boobs it doesn't mean that it's the be all/end all of a relationship if she doesn't have them. Some guys fall in love with a woman because of her cute face and nice personality and is totally satisfied with the cup size she has no matter how big or small.

[Asker]

I didn't say men only date girls with big boobs. But most men prefer big boobs. And she is really pretty and I'm plain. I don't understand why he would want me when he could very easily have her.

[Ozanne]

Because that's YOUR opinion that she's pretty and you're plain. To him, YOU'RE the pretty one and she's not.

[Asker]

Everyone agrees with me. Even his friend, who's also my friend, said that she can have any guy she wants and I'm lucky if even a handful of men find me a little bit attractive. Literally everyone would agree that she's beautiful, inside and out and I am just plain.

[Ozanne]

Well, look around at all these comments from women and especially the men who are telling you it's not always what you think. Boob size doesn't mean everything when in a relationship. Boob size is one thing that's nice to look at, but you are basically saying that every woman out there with smaller boobs are second best or worse because the rest of us big-boobed women are taken? That's nonsense. And beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Just because you and this other friend thinks she's so beautiful still doesn't mean HE does. Why don't you just ask him? Maybe he's not in to her because he knows something about her he doesn't like or isn't compatible with. Maybe he's in to you because you have something about you that makes him feel good and he likes to look at. I remember one guy passing me over in college once for an "Ivory Soap Girl". I was all about hair and makeup and making myself look good with an effort, and she was natural. He was in to that look and not mine. It happens.

[martyfellow]

Few guys care that much about a girl's breast size, Just the weirdos buying the girlie mags, and guys under 15.

[dogbert777]

Size of boobs really doesn't matter. It's you that matters. How he relates to the real you inside, your personality, the way you tick. You are woman enough to be able to handle any man that comes along, I promise. For what it's worth, both my mum and my sister are prob about your size and only 5' 1" tall.

[TadCurious]

Believe it or not, guys aren't just attracted to girls with big breasts. You shouldn't feel less worthy of a guy's attention just because you have smaller breasts. If I like a girl, I couldn't care less how big her breasts were. If I like her, I'm going to be attracted to her just the way she is, whatever size she is.

[Reginelli]

Because he likes you more. Just because she has bigger boobs and curvier body doesn't mean she is a better person for him. He may think you are sexier than she is. Its all in what he likes. He may not even be paying attention at your bodies and just like you better anyway. If he likes you go with it. Don't downgrade yourself and say you are not good enough. He likes what he likes.

[kheserthorpe]

Not everything is about one body part - he may find both of you pretty, but connect better with you.

Even if it is all one body part, something like 1/3 guys -prefers- small breasts.

[BertMacklinFBI]

maybe because boobs have nothing to do with character and personality.

[AshleyMD]

He is probably attracted to small boobs. Also he could like all sizes of boobs and you might just win in other areas for him.
No one thinks they're good enough for someone they find to be perfect in their eyes, just go with it but don't fall too hard just in case he changes his mind.

[Asker]

I am not going to date him because he can do better.

[AshleyMD]

Why do you think you're not good enough for him? Just because of the size of your boobs? It sounds like this guy likes you and you are good enough for him if he says he likes you. If you like him and he likes you, I don't get why you're saying you're not good enough for him unless you're a terrible person, but I highly doubt that.

[Asker]

I am ugly. I am probably a 3 while he's a 10. And she's a 10. They would make sense together. It would look weird for him to be with someone as ugly as me when he could have easily had a beautiful, nice woman.

[AshleyMD]

It sounds like he finds you attractive, beauty is subjective so in his eyes your're beautiful even though you may not see that and some people think they're not as good looking as they are.

[Anonymous]

I have a crush on this petite girl in my class i'm mesmerised by her charm and her personality
So either he likes you because of your personality
And not all guys like big boobs some like small :)
I however appreciate a fine body regardless of the size you know? It depends on other things as well may be face, eyes, hair, ass
Hope you get what I mean

[gray_sailor]

Maybe the boobs are not as important as the woman they are attached to.

He likes you, if you like him then that's a perfect match.

Let the other girl find a man who likes her for who she is instead of the size of her bra.

[azalea0912]

Breast size doesn't matter. A guy should date you because they like you for who you are as a person, not your breast size. If that's the only reason a guy wanted to date you, then he's a jerk and you should just walk away.

[hswhis]

Guys don't use just one measuring stick - boob and bra size. There is more to a woman that that and they know it.

[Sara413]

Because guys have different taste - not all guys are into massive boobs... some prefer smaller ones. Some don't really care at all.

[zazada12]

Can't even begin to explain how much questions like this are beginning to bug me.

She has big boobs. so. fucking. what.

i have big boobs. just as big as hers. so? a guy isn't going to just want me because i have big boobs (and if they do, it's for purely sexual reasons and thats not wanted basically).

stop acting like women are nothing except a pair of boobs. That mindset is really disgusting and offensive.

[Asker]

Easy for you to say. You have a womanly figure and even if a few men don't want you, the majority of men would.

[zazada12]

Are you listening to yourself? Why the hell would you want someone to want you solely because the size of your boobs? If someone truly loved you, they wouldn't care.

[Asker]

It's hard to find someone to love you when you're undesirable.

[Frost_Byt3]

Boob size isn't tha important. Either he likes your face better, or he simply likes you for your personality.

[Polswedgirl]

Because boobs aren't the most important thing in the world. Maybe he doesn't like her personality.