Friends like that you don't need. Though, it's understandable that you would have a hard time letting go after 5 years. Here's my advice. Confront this friend. Tell this person that it is making you feel insecure and destroying your self-esteem. If the tell you that they will stop but still proceed, then this person is not a good friend for you.
I had a friend that used to call me ugly, and one night we hooked up, and from then on, every time she said something like that, I had that one night to hold over her head. It's a dirty trick but it got my point across.
It's obviously tearing you up inside. You don't have to let people talk to you like that. It doesn't matter how tall you are, what color your skin is, how much you weigh, or what shape your body is, all that matters is what kind of person you are inside.
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Friends should lift you up not bring you down!!! Talk about it give that person 1 chance to change that behaviour and never allow it to happen again! If that person does it again, kick that person out of your life asap when he/she disrespects you again.
Whether its a friend, your partner or your family doesn't mather... Kick people who bring you down out of your life because they feed of your negative energy while bodyshaming you in order to make rhemse feel more secure. Dont allow it
Funny how when you set a boundary and the conversation is about you and your feelings they dismissed you and made it all about themselves. You are dealing with a classic narcist hook line and sinker. Any kind of interaction with individuals like this long term will do nothing but cause you unhappiness in so many ways, no friendship is worth sacrificing your mental health.
First of all, body shaming is a bad thing to do to your friend. And you are not wrong to defend yourself or call them out. Maybe the way you express it is a bit rough but since they started it they should apologize first and instead they said mean stuff to you.
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You sound unbearable. Your skin is so thin that you can't handle mild teasing about your height and try to turn it into some weird victimization narrative. I would say to let it go, not for your sake, but for theirs because you sound like a toxic friend.
Bae, you can do so much better. She obviously doesn't know what she's talking about. She definitely wasn't your friend in the first place if she always treated you like that. You just need to tell her that y'all aren't friends anymore and if she starts to beg you to stay and still be your friend, tell her to cry you a river, build you a bridge, and get over it.
The present matters more than the past. Don’t hold on so strongly to those 5 years. Just focus on how the person is acting currently and use that to make your decision.
I have a better idea. How bout you start to work on yourself. And be who you wanna be, look how you wanna look. So next time they see you and you look better than them- thats the biggest "fu (k you" to them.
Why do you even want to be around this person?
If they are "body shaming" you for being fat then they are trying to help you; if they are fat and shaming you for not being fat then dump the toxic trash.
they were probably just trying to be funny and you lack a sense of humor about yourself.
No one needs friends like that.
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