Guys, if you are looking for a long-term relationship with a woman does your opinion of her go down if she is willing to have sex with you 1st date?

[Anonymous]

In my eyes it implies she has sex with anyone on the first date.

I am trying to figure it out because I rather like this guy, and would like to make this long-term with the potential for marriage if all works out. But at the same time, I know guys have a different ideologies on sex and sexual activities than women.

Yes - My Opinion of Her Goes Down

Maybe - My Opinion of Her Goes Down

No - My Opinion of Her Does NOT Go Down

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A lot of guys are saying no but statistically the votes are 63% yes or maybe versus 37% no.

[zeitgeist057]

I personally said "no", and my opinion does not go down, but from what I've seen on here there are a ton of men (and some women, too) who have very sex-negative views. By that I mean they are stuck in a old fashioned or religious notion about sex, that it is a sin before their deity, or it's a dirty act, something to hide and be ashamed of.

I have a very different view of sex, that it is a physical manifestation and expression of attraction and affection towards someone, as well as a biological urge that is completely natural for members of a species that reproduces sexually.

So I would venture to say that it's likely more men DO look down on women who have sex easily, but also that those types of men are puerile and uncultured in their archaic ideas about sex.

[zeitgeist057]

Also, I disagree "it implies she has sex with anyone on the first date".
Just because you enjoy a food someone has prepared, doesn't mean you enjoy all food that anyone could ever prepare. If you give someone your phone number, it doesn't imply that you give everyone your phone number. This is not very good logic. I have slept with women on the first date, but there have been plenty of dates where I didn't sleep with them at all, ever. Because I didn't want to, and sleeping with one person does NOT imply sleeping with everyone. It implies a mutual sexual attraction that you've decided to act on.

[JSmuve]

To any given guy, there are four types of women out there.

1) The type that sleeps with every guy on the first date

2) The type that sleeps with no guys on the first date.

3) The type that sleeps with every guy, except him.

4) The type that sleeps with no guys except him.

Every guy wants to be with a category 4 girl. No guy wants to fall into category 3. If you're going to refrain because you don't want to seem like "one of those girls", it better be because you're a category 2 type of girl. Otherwise, no self-respecting guy will stick around. You lose more being a cat 3 girl trying to masquerade as a cat 2, then being a cat 1 masquerading as a cat 4. He'll definitely wonder whether you do this with all the guys, but if given the choice of being with a cat 1 girl or a cat 3 girl, he'll choose the cat 1 girl 100% of the time.

[OlderAndWiser]

During a passionate moment, whisper in his ear, "I want you probably just as much as you want me, but I don't want this to me something that starts too quickly and ends too quickly."

[Guy13]

Yes and she is removed from LTR into second or third option.

[FinalFantasyBro]

I mean I wouldn't mind but it has to be in a certain location is we at her place or at my place and she been thinking of naughty thoughts about it hell yeah I am definitely also down because I also have been thinking of naughty thoughts about her.

Are we at like a very fancy dinner and she try to make sexual suggestions or try to constantly turn the romantic date into a sexual conquest than yes. Reason one I personally find it disrespectful to me. Two I am trying to enjoy my meal and the third and realistically main important reason of all we are out in public and other people who could also brought their children with them are trying to enjoy their night nobody wants to hear that shit and I obviously don't either.

[Aggon1998]

I would not agree to have sex on a first date, since I want to marry a virgin. I want one partner for life.

The girl in question is not likely to be virgin, so if I really had to answer this question, I would say probably.

[Pyrofox]

I'd say maybe it it feels like she isn't really "there" mentally I'll just lose interest and just walk out even if its in her "home field" at her place. And it really goes down if the first thing she does is jump too forward into the whole having sex (As this second bit, just would make a guy be like okay PS red flag.) . I'd like it if its as organic and romantic as possible is my prefered way.

[WildCard42]

No.

I like that she wants to have sex with me, it's her actions afterwards that I base my opinions of her on. Like..

Does she stay out drinking and partying,?

Does she have male "Friends" that she texts while in a relationship?

Does she flirt with others?

Does she actually make an effort to spend time with me, or does she prioiritize everything else?

[Kinkyhubby]

Maybe, it would be her other actions, I would be watching to see of she was just horny, or felt really comfortable with me. Or if it was suppose to be just a one night stand or a friend with benefits. If she started to hide things and wasn't open during us talking, that would make my opinion drop about her.

[bamesjond0069]

Guys who say no are incels who are desperate so they have no standards.

There is a caveat for me anyways. I want a girl who doesn't sleep around on the first date... however if she's ALREADY been doing that with other men, THEN I expect her to do it with me too if she wants any chance with me.

[dvc0006]

or maybe they are open minded

[bamesjond0069]

@dvc0006 so they prefer a girl with 500 bodies over 10?

[dvc0006]

you must have such a small dick that makes you so insecure and don't want to be compared. or you are physically inferior.

[bamesjond0069]

@dvc0006 so your penis must be very large since you only want to date gang bang sluts?

[mstbooblover]

Actually, even if I'd be a little surprised, that would be most welcome, because at least sex would probably not be a problem, and that's something not to be underestimated. We're not talking about professionals, are we?

[Hawner]

No, it doesn't change. It would go down if "she had to have sex yes or yes", but not if she is willing. I need a couple of dates before reaching that phase.