Guys, if you are looking for a long-term relationship with a woman does your opinion of her go down if she is willing to have sex with you 1st date?

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In my eyes it implies she has sex with anyone on the first date.

I am trying to figure it out because I rather like this guy, and would like to make this long-term with the potential for marriage if all works out. But at the same time, I know guys have a different ideologies on sex and sexual activities than women.

JSmuve · Accepted Answer

To any given guy, there are four types of women out there.

1) The type that sleeps with every guy on the first date

2) The type that sleeps with no guys on the first date.

3) The type that sleeps with every guy, except him.

4) The type that sleeps with no guys except him.

Every guy wants to be with a category 4 girl. No guy wants to fall into category 3. If you're going to refrain because you don't want to seem like "one of those girls", it better be because you're a category 2 type of girl. Otherwise, no self-respecting guy will stick around. You lose more being a cat 3 girl trying to masquerade as a cat 2, then being a cat 1 masquerading as a cat 4. He'll definitely wonder whether you do this with all the guys, but if given the choice of being with a cat 1 girl or a cat 3 girl, he'll choose the cat 1 girl 100% of the time.

zeitgeist057 · Accepted Answer

I personally said "no", and my opinion does not go down, but from what I've seen on here there are a ton of men (and some women, too) who have very sex-negative views. By that I mean they are stuck in a old fashioned or religious notion about sex, that it is a sin before their deity, or it's a dirty act, something to hide and be ashamed of.

I have a very different view of sex, that it is a physical manifestation and expression of attraction and affection towards someone, as well as a biological urge that is completely natural for members of a species that reproduces sexually.

So I would venture to say that it's likely more men DO look down on women who have sex easily, but also that those types of men are puerile and uncultured in their archaic ideas about sex.

Guys, if you are looking for a long-term relationship with a woman does your opinion of her go down if she is willing to have sex with you 1st date?

OlderAndWiser · Answer

During a passionate moment, whisper in his ear, "I want you probably just as much as you want me, but I don't want this to me something that starts too quickly and ends too quickly."

Guy13 · Answer

Yes and she is removed from LTR into second or third option.

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

I mean I wouldn't mind but it has to be in a certain location is we at her place or at my place and she been thinking of naughty thoughts about it hell yeah I am definitely also down because I also have been thinking of naughty thoughts about her.

Are we at like a very fancy dinner and she try to make sexual suggestions or try to constantly turn the romantic date into a sexual conquest than yes. Reason one I personally find it disrespectful to me. Two I am trying to enjoy my meal and the third and realistically main important reason of all we are out in public and other people who could also brought their children with them are trying to enjoy their night nobody wants to hear that shit and I obviously don't either.

Aggon1998 · Answer

I would not agree to have sex on a first date, since I want to marry a virgin. I want one partner for life.

The girl in question is not likely to be virgin, so if I really had to answer this question, I would say probably.

Pyrofox · Answer

I'd say maybe it it feels like she isn't really "there" mentally I'll just lose interest and just walk out even if its in her "home field" at her place. And it really goes down if the first thing she does is jump too forward into the whole having sex (As this second bit, just would make a guy be like okay PS red flag.) . I'd like it if its as organic and romantic as possible is my prefered way.

WildCard42 · Answer

No.

I like that she wants to have sex with me, it's her actions afterwards that I base my opinions of her on. Like..

Does she stay out drinking and partying,?

Does she have male "Friends" that she texts while in a relationship?

Does she flirt with others?

Does she actually make an effort to spend time with me, or does she prioiritize everything else?

Kinkyhubby · Answer

Maybe, it would be her other actions, I would be watching to see of she was just horny, or felt really comfortable with me. Or if it was suppose to be just a one night stand or a friend with benefits. If she started to hide things and wasn't open during us talking, that would make my opinion drop about her.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Guys who say no are incels who are desperate so they have no standards.

There is a caveat for me anyways. I want a girl who doesn't sleep around on the first date... however if she's ALREADY been doing that with other men, THEN I expect her to do it with me too if she wants any chance with me.

mstbooblover · Answer

Actually, even if I'd be a little surprised, that would be most welcome, because at least sex would probably not be a problem, and that's something not to be underestimated. We're not talking about professionals, are we?

Hawner · Answer

No, it doesn't change. It would go down if "she had to have sex yes or yes", but not if she is willing. I need a couple of dates before reaching that phase.

HighValue · Answer

Yes because then she is quite likely to have participated in casual sex if she has sex that early since it isn't possible to have formed a strong emotional attachment yet.

Fireguy17 · Answer

If my opinion of her goes down, I was also there having sex, so my opinion of myself would also have to go down because I had sex on the first date.

Hardworkingguy · Answer

I really don't believe there's any reason to change my mind about her just because she wants to have sex with me on the first date perhaps she really just like me and we clicked

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Yeah thats a huge red flag, enough to abort and not talk to her anymore.

Anonymous · Answer

"In my eyes it implies she has sex with anyone on the first date." Ditto. Therefore my opinion of her goes down to sex partners only.

Evan64 · Answer

Yes. It means she's easy and as an asexual I'd rather not have that be a thing especially so soon.

Jerre · Answer

My opinion does not change if we have sex on our first date. More than likely I’ll have a second date, knowing we will fuck again.

dexter234 · Answer

Usually it is like that, but that doesn't necessarily mean it will not work out, love can come after sex as well

Anonymous · Answer

You just automatically start to think how many other guys she’s spent two hours with on a date that led to getting naked with them too. It loses its luster when she gives it up that easily.

SpokenTruth · Answer

I would avoid them like the plague assuming I dated, I don't.

Jltakk · Answer

Not really. I'd be more worried about a bunch of other things over the course of the date than that.

dudeinohio · Answer

Nope

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