How’d you feel if your SO forbids you to post a picture of them online or even talk about your relationship to others until you’re engaged?

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What would you say or do about it?

Jdjfjcjj · Accepted Answer

Forbids? Yes I'm not your father, and I don't want to have to train you on how to be a good girlfriend.

You always can decide what you want you want to do, but there are consequences and I have no difficulty walking away from chicks

AngryCarl2 · Accepted Answer

I'd find it a bit odd. I'd probably want an explanation.

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

That would be unacceptable to me. We would no longer have a relationship if I was supposed to keep it a secret. What exactly are they embarrassed about? No way I would ever accept this. So I guess I would feel "single." And like that relationship was clearly one that I needed to end... like I just did.

To me, this is very black-and-white. Unless you're at risk of some crazy uncle trying to honor-kill, you or something like that... then there's no excuse or justification for this.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

1. I don't allow any partner, at any stage of a relationship, to order or command what I can or cannot do. That person is not LTR material.

2. My immediate assumption in your scenario is that the boyfriend is married or living with a girl.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

I'd say it sounds very controlling, while I understand respect for not sharing pictures of someone... not talking about them is over the top to me.

It would literally make others think I am either in a mysterious relationship that I'm lying about as I can't talk much about them or that I'm totally faking it.

I don't do controlling relationships anymore where he tries to control me.

Valkyria · Answer

Maybe they're keeping it a secret because they don't want their parents knowing or something like that, but if so, ask them for the reason. If they give a half-assed reason or none at all then they are probably cheating and don't want to be caught.

Though I know a few people who have no social media at all. Posting their face on social media sort of defeats that point so I can understand that. Maybe they're self-conscious of their appearance.

If you can't talk about it to anyone, though, then that's the most suspicious.

AliSulayman · Answer

In middle east it’s normal. While in the west it can be different. Some people like to keep their personal lives to themselves. You can talk about it with him and know his reasons then ask yourself, what’s more important? You being with him or posting your photos?

MisterKuulius · Answer

Most decent guys who are really interested in the woman would WANT you to post a photo of both of you together, instead of photos by yourself. Because it indicates that you are NOT available anymore for OTHER men's attention. Barring some extremely unusual but appropriate reason, it sounds to me like he is not that interested in taking it that far.

Boomchakalaca · Answer

“Dont let ur girlfriend stop u from meeting ur future wife”
😅 well, seems suspicious of u ask me. Some thoughts i might come up with r: “is he embarrassed to be seen with me” “he dosent want anyone to know he’s in a relationship atm” saying u dont like to be posted on social media is diff then FORBIDDING them 🤷🏻‍♀️

ilovelamp · Answer

How’d you feel if your SO forbids you to post a picture of them online

I would feel totally fine with that and RESPECT Her decision for privacy.

even talk about your relationship to others until you’re engaged?
Is a different matter not sure how i would feel about that would depend on the reason.

ChiTown33 · Answer

I guess I'd be ok with it if she gave me legitimate reason to. I'd never post a Pic of someone I was close to if i knew it was against thier wishes. And I can choose to not talk about her if that's what she wants. But that'd be disappointing as when I love someone I like to brag about them. Also, how am I supposed to respond if someone sees me out with her? Am I supposed to lie about who she is? I'd think that would be worse. 😂

Fuentes · Answer

I don't like the internet it isn't safe so theirs no reason we need to post our relationship or she needs to put me on social media. The whole world doesn't need to know our business.

Simslover92 · Answer

I don't care so much about the picture thing but the not talking to anyone about him until we were engaged is a bit much. I would have to really think about us being together.

MrOracle · Answer

I don't have any personal social media, so nothing would really be different for me. But given that so many women live their whole lives on social media, I would want to know her reasons.

qqqqq0000 · Answer

I like posting whatever i like, so that kind of “relationship” wouldn't work for me, and i wouldn't want it to anyway. lots of other guys who wouldn't care about being posted, or better so, who likes it.

Agape93 · Answer

You don't forbid me from doing a damn thing. You ask me to, and I'll honor it. The moment you think you can forbid me from talking, we are done and I'll do it on principle

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I don't do pictures online because of the nature of my work. If a woman can't respect that she's gone.

Adam1978 · Answer

Unacceptable that sounds like a scammers who wants to trap you first before the world get a smell of her.

LazerBean · Answer

I wouldn't have a boyfriend that was ashamed of our relationship.

EmmaMary · Answer

Controlling Attitude... Huge Red Flag... Goodbye, Sayonara...

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

That's called stashing, and it's a form of abuse. I don't tolerate that.

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

Sounds dodge. I wouldn't be with him. I can post whatever I want..

Sevenpointfive · Answer

i do this. i don't want anyone knowing anything about me

Unit1 · Answer

Since I don't use social media and don't post pictures of myself online I'd expect any girlfriend to respect my preference, so there's that.

Legendarylegacy13 · Answer

I don't like my pics floating around either but un not a cheater maybe he has issues with people that he doesn't like that doesn't like him

Sasha0426 · Answer

If he isn’t comfortable about putting stuff online, that’s fine. But, if wants to act single, I’ll do the same thing 🤷‍♀️

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

I wouldn't care about the pictures, but I wouldn't be with someone who I have to hide from family and close friends.

dreamstar72 · Answer

I probably would understand since there could be a intuitive reason.

clampfan101 · Answer

I’d tell her I don’t want our dating to feel like something she had to hide, or I would just feel shame.

worldscolide · Answer

See I don't care if she talks about me online, I hyst refuse to have my pictures taken and posted.

kevdogg33a · Answer

My current situation. I understand why she's so hesitant; her family is judgmental and there's a pretty significant age gap between us. Plus, I'm white American and she's Mexican.

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

If I am to keep the relationship a secret then it's over.

Crankor · Answer

Sounds like the so would be trying to hide something

abc3643 · Answer

Respect their wishes.

dragoblack · Answer

That is a huge red flag. Dude will probably be cheating or looking for someone he considers better

Guardian45 · Answer

In some cultures, its considered bad luck, or he's shy, or he's shady AF!

JonesT10Apr · Answer

it's their privacy... sometimes we wanna respect their privacy

RavVid · Answer

I hate photos of me so I would be likely to say no.

DermalPunch · Answer

I am that SO. So no issue

Reddy4it · Answer

Makes you wonder why…

Pete671 · Answer

I would respect their wish for privacy,,,

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

Id respect her privacy.

cuteheart48 · Answer

Makes you think he doesn’t deserve you.

TooHot2Care · Answer

Post it online anyway and start a fight.

htmndg183 · Answer

Fine by me.

In_Trance · Answer

That's fine

Minahh · Answer

Red flag

Xtendable · Answer

Seems suspicious

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