None. But then only had one former relationship and one other who i was really starting to date. Learnt a lot from them both in different ways. No regrets
How long were you in jail for? That was horrible. I had something of a similar experience. Her main complaint was I hurt her hand blocking her punches and she called the police for that. Fortunately they were realistic.
I could sue the police for false arrest but that would just call more attention to the fact that I was arrested, and it would cause me even more embarrassment.
My ex was borderline and assaultive and crazy as a bed bug. there is a long list of things that she did and didn't do but for the most part her behavior was completely unacceptable almost all the time. I really regret that I ever met her and I certainly regret ever getting into a relationship with her.
I often envy other folks for being in a relationship or having at least experienced one, but damn. I'm sorry that happened.
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I’ve regretted having relationships where I trusted more than perhaps I should’ve and ended up feeling somewhat used by the end. It’s the manipulative crazy making that is the worst part. I have a low tolerance for that now and lose interest as soon as I get a shudder of it.
Yes, embarrassing for an attorney to be in court as a defendant in a criminal matter. And one of the conditions of my release after arrest was no contact with her. She was living in my home, so I had to continue paying the rent but live somewhere else for two months. And when she left, she took 90% of everything in the house.
@Emiliamazing There was a civil remedy in court but this was in the first year of covid and the court system was moving very slowly. It took two months to get the court order for her to vacate the premises, and that gave her enough time to pack up all of my stuff and disappear. I called the police to report the theft and they told me. . . this is REALLY what they told me. . . that they don't like to get involved in domestic matters!
I have two very close friends going through a very ugly divorces right now. One in Colorado, and one in New Mexico. Any type of separation seems to be extremely unpleasant. The husbands in both cases are the lower earners and it's appalling to see the effect on the children and the pocketbooks. I'm pretty sure I've got a good one, and I don't need to worry about him leaving me, because I can't imagine going through the nightmare that my two friends are experiencing.
I figured you had some experience in that arena. It's just mind blowing to see asset reserves dwindle down to nearly nothing, the friend in Colorado is spending $13,000 a month on her divorce lawyer. This is due in part to her husband (lower earner in household) wants a large payout from assets and home equity. .
@Emiliamazing WOW! I handled a few million dollar divorces and the most I ever charged anyone was $10,000 from start to finish. Otoher than that one case, the rest were $5,000 or less.
I don't question the number she threw out, she's one of my closest friends. Not sure who she hired, but it's mowing through assets. My maid of honor and her husband are also both attorneys and I know he doesn't charge that much for divorce. Not even close.
@Emiliamazing ... yeah; that's really sad. 😢 I was 11 when my parents separated. 13 when the divorce was final. 30 when my mom passed and I was finally done being a pawn in their back and forth.
That said. My Ex-wife was a relationship that I TOTALLY regretted. Initially, I thought she was perfect, but soon discovered that she thought she was too! Everything I did was wrong and our relationship devolved to her abusing me emotionally and physically. It took years of therapy and meds to recover. The WORST relationship I ever had. I've now blocked it out of my mind.
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None. But then only had one former relationship and one other who i was really starting to date. Learnt a lot from them both in different ways. No regrets
I did have one I regretted but not to that extreme, it was very short lived
I'll admit that, unless you had a romanic partner kill you or at least amputate one of your limbs, my history is difficult to outdo!
Yeah you had a rough one there
none, very few though... compared to the G@G's average
Virtually every man I’ve ever been involved with.
2. I learned something from ALL of them, but I should have been more alert for 2 in particular.
How long were you in jail for? That was horrible. I had something of a similar experience. Her main complaint was I hurt her hand blocking her punches and she called the police for that. Fortunately they were realistic.
Overnight. I was released the next afternoon without bond because the judge knew of my reputation as a good attorney and a decent person.
Still pretty crazy.
Yeah, rather crazy!
and they did it to a lawyer!
I could sue the police for false arrest but that would just call more attention to the fact that I was arrested, and it would cause me even more embarrassment.
I can see that and it would be something the media would like.
I entered a relationship with a guy who only liked to talk about himself. We dated for 1 month until i had enough
Only regret was leaving them honestly... well they left but I couldn't follow
My ex was borderline and assaultive and crazy as a bed bug. there is a long list of things that she did and didn't do but for the most part her behavior was completely unacceptable almost all the time. I really regret that I ever met her and I certainly regret ever getting into a relationship with her.
I often envy other folks for being in a relationship or having at least experienced one, but damn. I'm sorry that happened.
I’ve regretted having relationships where I trusted more than perhaps I should’ve and ended up feeling somewhat used by the end. It’s the manipulative crazy making that is the worst part. I have a low tolerance for that now and lose interest as soon as I get a shudder of it.
The pic was 2010, right?
because that text design is old as fuck
Oh nm
God is keeping me a virgin so that I may be risen with Him and Christ. I am hated and despised because he was first hated and despised.
None. They've all been great. Just didn't work out long term.
Wow. What a story. I don't regret any dating partners. And, wow, what an experience you had.
Yes, embarrassing for an attorney to be in court as a defendant in a criminal matter. And one of the conditions of my release after arrest was no contact with her. She was living in my home, so I had to continue paying the rent but live somewhere else for two months. And when she left, she took 90% of everything in the house.
I truly have no words other than I am so sorry.
Good grief! There was no avenue for you to return to your own home? I expect it would be better if you paid rent for her to live somewhere else?
@Emiliamazing There was a civil remedy in court but this was in the first year of covid and the court system was moving very slowly. It took two months to get the court order for her to vacate the premises, and that gave her enough time to pack up all of my stuff and disappear. I called the police to report the theft and they told me. . . this is REALLY what they told me. . . that they don't like to get involved in domestic matters!
Terrible terrible terrible. Unexpected repercussions of Covid keep cropping up everywhere.
@OlderAndWiser... you should change the names and sell this to Hollywood.
I think I am not really alone in suffering through this. Far too common, I fear!
I have two very close friends going through a very ugly divorces right now. One in Colorado, and one in New Mexico. Any type of separation seems to be extremely unpleasant. The husbands in both cases are the lower earners and it's appalling to see the effect on the children and the pocketbooks. I'm pretty sure I've got a good one, and I don't need to worry about him leaving me, because I can't imagine going through the nightmare that my two friends are experiencing.
@Emiliamazing I handled divorce cases for years and always tried to do things in a way that minimized the stress, but a certain amount is inevitable.
I figured you had some experience in that arena. It's just mind blowing to see asset reserves dwindle down to nearly nothing, the friend in Colorado is spending $13,000 a month on her divorce lawyer. This is due in part to her husband (lower earner in household) wants a large payout from assets and home equity. .
@Emiliamazing WOW! I handled a few million dollar divorces and the most I ever charged anyone was $10,000 from start to finish. Otoher than that one case, the rest were $5,000 or less.
I don't question the number she threw out, she's one of my closest friends. Not sure who she hired, but it's mowing through assets. My maid of honor and her husband are also both attorneys and I know he doesn't charge that much for divorce. Not even close.
@Emiliamazing and @OlderAndWiser... I am the child of divorced parents and the collateral damage is intense.
@Emiliamazing I am embarassed when I hear some of the things that other attorneys do!
@snowedin there are children involved in both cases, young children (pre teen) at that. Very sad and stressful.
@Emiliamazing ... yeah; that's really sad. 😢 I was 11 when my parents separated. 13 when the divorce was final. 30 when my mom passed and I was finally done being a pawn in their back and forth.
I regret how they ended, but not having those relationships!
That said. My Ex-wife was a relationship that I TOTALLY regretted. Initially, I thought she was perfect, but soon discovered that she thought she was too! Everything I did was wrong and our relationship devolved to her abusing me emotionally and physically. It took years of therapy and meds to recover. The WORST relationship I ever had. I've now blocked it out of my mind.
I dated sisters and I regret that because it hurt my ex girlfriend kids that I was with their aunt.
I think regretting them would be weird. Yes I have issues because of those relationships, but I am also who I am today because of them.
Both But Lessons have been learned
That means that those relationships were not total losses. That's the right attitude to have.
I'm still in my first relationship
And I hope that continues for at least another 50-60 years!
If we live that long.